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Wishing you had more patience? Some of my tips in Standard Issue (7/2/17)

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Thanks for including me in this piece on being more patient, Natalie Trice. I am endlessly working on building my own patience muscles.

What do we want? Patience! When do we want it? NOW!

You can click here to read it.

When do you notice yourself feeling most rushed?

What helps you relax a little more and allow more time for yourself and whatever you are doing?

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love,

Eve

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If I talked to myself the way I talked to my cat, I’d probably be invincible

 

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Some have suggested I adore Rainbow MagnifiCat too much (impossible).

When I stand up to open the door for her, I say, ‘Just opening the door for you. No pressure. You can go out or stay in. If you go out, stay safe, have fun, come when I call you and back before ___*’

Sometimes, the above scenario plays out several times within a few minutes. Cats change their minds. And I have all the time in the world for her even though patience isn’t one of my biggest strengths.

Catching myself talking patiently and sensitively to her several times recently, I wondered how much easier challenging** tasks might be for me if my own default self-talk was as soothing.

Sometimes, I think Rainbow assumes her name is really ‘Divine wondercat’, ‘Most magnificent creature to have ever walked the planet’ or similar.

I wouldn’t want to go overboard with myself (I’m only human) and yet, on days I smile at my reflection (after years of therapy) rather than think, ‘Urgh, I look like Jack Nicholson***’ I realise that my self-talk has improved.

These days, if I break something or similar, I often hear myself calling myself ‘Kitten’. I’m dealing with the breakage (or whatever flaw) but in a much gentler way than I used to where I’d have been mentally bludgeoning myself over being clumsy.

I feel a little embarrassed writing this. Not because of the cat worship but because after 15+ years of this kind of work and so many improvements in my own self-care, it’s taken the last few years of cat care to embed this particular shift.

How might your self-talk improve if you spoke to yourself as you would to a beloved dog / dragon / child etc?

Notice how you feel when you express patience and compassion for yourself rather than criticism and judgment.

As with everything, it’s a practice. But the kinder and more accepting we can be to ourselves, the easier it becomes to make any change and improvement.

Cultivating a more caring voice for our self-talk is worth doing.

Feel free to share below.

love,

Eve

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* curfew works 95% of the time but she IS a cat

** not that coming in and going out is challenging for her

*** no offence to Jack Nicholson intended. He is a beautiful man but I don’t want to look like him

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