What a week!
Apart from here, the floods in Ghana, attack in Turkey…
There have been high emotions in the aftermath of the vote. I’ve shed a lot of tears, hearing about the increase in racist attacks, wanting to connect and collaborate with the world at large, not be cast adrift.
Also, respecting the democratic process and knowing we’re all doing the best we can with what we know at any given time.
A lot of us are struggling with our sense of identity.
I’ve been clumsily attempting to be super friendly to people who look like they might be not from here.
Then, to increase the strange looks resulting from my beaming at strangers in London and Essex, trying to be extra friendly to everyone.
Being naturally more introverted (I think I’m an extraverted introvert), I’m sometimes exhausted by it all.
In attempting to be more smiley to people, I’m no longer hiding behind books and newspapers on public transport but making eye contact (the horror! Joke – it’s actually refreshing), I’m remembering that the heartbreaking stories are far from the big picture.
Still, what could I do to (without freaking anyone out by being too smiley), help others feel safer?
I was delighted to hear about the safety pins being worn to show solidarity with immigrant communities (again, as the daughter of an Irish and Indian, via Kenyan, immigrant, it feels a bit odd to show solidarity with myself so am aiming for some self-compassion rather than beating myself up for all the times I’ve cried or welled up since Friday).
The safety pin is such a great example of someone doing something simple to stand up (quietly and maybe not even needing to stand up at all) and say racism is unacceptable. And I can dial back my beaming at people so minimise the risk of freaking strangers out by being potentially over friendly in an effort to compensate for a tiny by vocal minority of racist individuals.
I’m also aware of the reports of Muslim women being targeted more than men (sexism as well as racism) and talk of older people being accused of voting badly and the need (my name is Eve – am still working on my overdeveloped sense of responsibility for the whole world), recent progress for gay and trans rights and desire for everybody to be safe, free to flourish, able to be their glorious wondrous selves without fear of attack.
Is there something you’ve been feeling hopeless and helpless about?
What is something small – safety pin tiny – that might help you begin to remember that no matter what’s going on around you, everyone is doing their best?
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