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Meditating with the MagnifiCat

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Clients and students often ask me about creating and sustaining a meditative practice when their children are demanding their time, energy and attention.

I recommend making them a part of their practice (being fully present with whatever’s going on). Sometimes, I tell them about how I use Rainbow MagnifiCat’s interruptions during the day to enhance my mindfulness practice. As she looks expectantly for attention, I make my lap available for her, pausing work or whatever (unless I’m with a telephone or online client, obviously) and relax into the Rainbow Appreciation Time, hearing her purr, feeling her fur (and claws and weight) and generally feeling pleasantly present and grounded.

This morning, I realised that this is not (of course) the full story. Most days, I let her out while I do my morning meditation and a little yoga. My eyes frequently open and glance towards the door, checking in case she wants to come in.

This morning, with a lot of pent up energy from her snow avoiding time indoors yesterday, she didn’t want to go out while I meditated. I told her (and her angel) that I’d be meditating and focusing on my experience yet still noticed myself getting very distracted. Lots of opportunities this morning for noticing this (with as much self-compassion and curiosity as I could muster) and gently bringing my mind back to the meditation.

And Rainbow’s a cat. Babies and children (and puppies and goats etc) are far more demanding.

What can you do to make them part of your practice in a way that’s practical for them and you?

As with everything, some days, it’s much easier to be present than others. Many mornings, Rainbow’s so peaceful and quiet on the bed, I do my meditation next to her there before I even brush my teeth.

This morning, I could have easily locked Rainbow out of the room but I wanted to challenge myself to stay focused. (I can almost hear her howl, ‘Mwah hahahaha’ from the other room where she’s been peaceful and still since I finished and put my yoga mat away.)

Children and animals are wonderful at bringing us into the present moment.

This isn’t to say it’s always easy. Just as it’s often easier to be aware of our bodies and what they need when we feel strong, fit and healthy, it’s when we’re in pain that the biggest benefits of being present and really paying attention to what we need can pay off.

Do you include your children and/or animals in your meditative practices?

When is it easiest?

When is it most challenging?

What helps you most?

Feel free to share below.

love,

Eve

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Fridge Magnet Therapy with Chris Milbank

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(This magnet image is showing up fine in draft but once published, goes horizontal – spooky)

I’ve long loved energy therapies. Woo woo as many sound, I’m trained and experienced in a fair few. Crystal therapy was the first (crystals helped me where hospital prescribed painkillers didn’t so, having been interested since my teens, I became open to learning more and ended up training over three years. I still use them daily).

NLP has its energetic elements and Art Giser’s gorgeous Energetic NLP (ENLP) has been so powerful (and speedy), with great results in so many areas of my life, as well as being a tool I sometimes share with clients and students, I incorporate some into my daily meditation each morning.

And EFT works with meridians (something I first learned about during my crystal therapy training although I feel more comfortable with the chakras).

Even the kind of counselling I do, psychosynthesis, has its energetic elements. It’s creator, Roberto Assagioli, had worked with Freud but was also very interested in potential as much as wounding. Eastern philosophy as well as Western science. I’ve done some training with Energetic Psychotherapy pioneer, Phil Mollon.

And, of course, yoga works with energy. So it’s a big part of what I do, both for my own self-care and when working with clients and students.

Still, when I was invited to an evening of Fridge Magnet Therapy, I definitely laughed at the idea. One friend rolled her eyes and said, ‘Only you, Eve’ (although the evening was FILLED with similarly curious souls so I wasn’t the only one by a long shot!).

I’d not heard of Chris Milbank but the other Solar Events trainings I’d attended (Art Giser‘s ENLP and Joanna Martin‘s Presentation Secrets) had far exceeded my expectations so I was open to it.

And it rocked. Jemma had included some black cat fridge magnets in the selection she’d bought so I chose one in honour of Rainbow (see above. Of COURSE I chose a black cat over unicorns, mermaids, witches and other magical creatures).

Chris seemed smiley and down to earth. He was also laughing at his creation of Fridge Magnet Therapy but as he spoke about more traditional magnet therapy and the meridians, it made sense. (Again, I know that much of what makes sense to me sounds nuts to my loved ones, let alone strangers.)

He pointed out that apart from us knowing that meridians exist because we feel energy work WORKING, Pierre de Vernejoul demonstrated these electrical pathways’ existence by injecting dye and showing visibly how it moved around this energy system.

I volunteered to be first guinea pig as while not phobic, I had a fair bit of dread about my upcoming dental surgery. As with EFT and NLP, he tested as he went along, I’d be feeling much better about it and he’d throw in something about my not just needing the one implant to replace my poor broken tooth but that I’d need 6. A week. On my toes.

Of course, this made me laugh as well as cringe and I continued following his instructions using the magnet along a meridien (this can be done via Skype as the person uses the magnet on him or herself). At one point (I was also a little self conscious being in front of a fairly large group), I joked about throwing myself out of the window.

I had no idea where that had come from but after the demonstration, when I sat back in my seat and made notes,

The upcoming dental treatment felt much less daunting and as I wrote, I remembered being a young teenager, having four teeth removed in order to have a fixed brace fitted (someone used to call me Sharky as my teeth were growing over each other). Before going under, I remembered having a real sense of dread. The dentist (not my usual lovely soul) was clearly in a bad mood and I had a strong sense of him meaning me harm. I remember actively wanting to leap out of the window to get away from him.

I know from the yoga therapy and other trauma work just how adept the body is at storing memories but the gums? Teeth? This astonished me as I made the connection last night. When I think back, I’m not sure if that was the last thing I remembered before waking up with four fewer teeth or if I had the teeth removed by someone less sadistic another time but I remember that feeling.

So I was lucky enough to experienced Fridge Magnet Therapy’s benefits direct from its inventor.

Throughout the rest of the evening, as well as some other demonstrations, we worked on some of our own beliefs and issues. And as with other intense energy work experiences, I slept really well afterwards.

Its something I’m delighted to have come across and I know I’ll offer it as an option, when it feels appropriate, as part of sessions, workshops and classes.

As with EFT and crystals and yogic breaths and so on, while I believe they have energetic benefits, you really don’t have to for it to work.

Even the act of thinking to yourself, ‘Hmmm, _____ is holding me back/bugging me/causing upset/whatever… I know, I’ll play with that Fridge Magnet Therapy’ (or EFT or whatever feels good to you) offers a way of remembering you’re more than your ruminating mind.

That issue you want support with (or to help yourself with) is intense enough to be bothering you. By actively moving your hand and the magnet along the meridian (or tapping or whatever you choose), you’re changing your posture, you’re probably calming your breath, you’re almost certainly laughing. You’re helping your body’s natural healing capabilities to kick in. And there are no side effects (apart from, maybe, a little embarrassment).

If you’d like to find out more, Chris is running a weekend training course in February (again, through the ever fab Solar Events) so, if you’re interested in learning how to elevate this humble fridge decoration to a therapeutic tool, I recommend it!

What’s the most ‘woo woo’ therapy you’ve tried?

How did it help?

What would you LIKE to try?

Feel free to comment below.

love,

Eve x

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Talking energy work and coaching at BACP Coaching’s UEL meeting last night

Even though the transpersonal is so embedded in modern coaching (Sir John Whitmore learned a lot from psychosynthesis creator Assagioli), going to an academic environment to talk about energy work and coaching felt a little like coming out of the closet (don’t burn me at the stake!).

Instead, it was fun to share some of the processes I use with a lovely group more accustomed to hearing from executive coaches.

We covered grounding, HeartMath, Metta (loving kindness), a little mindfulness, some Resolution Magic, ENLP, bifocal vision, Good Will and more.

Big thanks to Gill, Becks and Christian for being so welcoming and to everyone there for being open.

Metta,

Eve

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Gender grounding (and me) featured in Soul & Spirit magazine (February 2015)

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You can click here to read the whole gender grounding SSFeb15GenderGrounding feature and click here to read Jemma’s step by step instructions (if you’d like to try it yourself).

What are your favourite ways to ground?

Metta,

Eve

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