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Feel Better Every Day on Sea – sessions now available in Frinton

Feel Better Every Day on Sea

My main client space remains Witham, with the Feel Better Every Day Consultancy on the high street but, in recent months, I’ve been offering a few sessions a week from Colchester (and am starting teaching a Sleep Yoga class there in January).

As of this week, am delighted to be offering a few sessions a week from Frinton on Sea on Essex’s Sunshine Coast. The Connaught Clinic is just a few moments from the seafront and a short walk from the station.

Connaught Clinic

 Find out more HERE and, of course, let me know if you have any questions or would like to book an initial session with me.




Early bird discounts for upcoming yoga therapy courses and workshops (for stress, anxiety and depression; better sleep and rebalancing the chakras)


There’s still some availability for my next Yoga Therapy for the Mind 8 Week Course for Stress, Anxiety and Depression (starting on Monday, 8th September).

And I’m also taking bookings for my Better Sleep workshop on Saturday, 6th December (and the 6 Week Course which starts on 9th January, 2015) and Chakra workshop on Saturday, 22nd November (and the 7 Week Course starts on Tuesday, 6th January, 2015).

Find out about early bird discounts and more by clicking here



Click here for more information.

Do get in touch if you have any questions or would like to chat about them.




Me (and others) on working with crystals in today’s Daily Mail

They missed half of my last name (Menezes Cunningham) and I don’t think I’ve ever been called ‘middle class’ before (bizarre) but, yup, I believe that crystals can be a wonderful catalyst for all sorts of changes.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2682536/Why-middle-class-women-believe-crystals-cure-ills.html – click this link to read the full article

Visit www.crystalsessex.co.uk for more information and have a great week.

Big thanks to Polly Dunbar (words) and Paul Webb (pics).

Metta x


Clarity with clear quartz


If you’re interested in crystals, you may want to start by exploring clear quartz. Often neglected as not as exciting or pretty as some of the other stones, it remains one of my favourites.

I’m writing about it today because, having been working with a clear quartz crystal for a couple of days now, I’ve been reminded by how powerfully it can cut through all the confusion and help us see things more clearly.

I don’t want to limit its uses to clarity (like all stones, clear quartz has many talents – each particular rock will have its own energy although many will share certain characteristics. The way it’s treated (left natural? Cut and shaped?) will also impact it so, for example, a sphere is likely to bring a softer energy than a wand) but clear quartz, well, rocks.

It can be (energetically) as sharp as a surgeon’s scalpel. Yes, the incision will need time to heal but wow, look how what needed to be removed has been excised!

Clear quartz’ stony siblings (amethyst, rose quartz and citrine) bring their own spins on the energy. Amethyst can offer a softer energy and is great for connecting us to our spirits, rose quartz can be a wonderful emotional salve and citrine can offer a citrus like burst of joy and optimism.

In terms of helping me see things more clearly (and deciding to take action), this clear quartz has been a wonderful gift. And yet, sometimes, not seeing things clearly has its compensations. It enables us to stay comfortably miserable or simply mildly dissatisfied. We may feel our heart sinking or know that we’re moaning but forget that we have the power to change things.

Of course, once we know what needs to change, we need to use our will to change things. And to temper that, we need to use love, too (kindness, compassion and acceptance both with ourselves as we take what can feel like scary steps and the people we’re dealing with).

Whether or not your clarity has come from meditating with crystals (or meditating at all) or a simple flash of insight, how can you best honour your new knowledge?

What baby steps can you start taking today? And how can you be as kind to yourself (and others involved) as possible as you go through this transition?

If you’re interested in finding out more about working with crystals to create the life of your dreams (not nightmares), check out my special New Year’s Eve (daytime) workshop to help you release all that’s holding you back and move into 2014 feeling lighter and more focused.

Metta x

Image (c) Eve Menezes Cunningham 2013


Relapsing back into unhealthy habits?


Whether your ‘drug of choice’ (as Oprah might say) is food, alcohol, drugs, smoking, over-spending, self-harm, gambling, getting back into a bad relationship or less pernicious but still annoying bad habits, it can feel really disheartening when, after doing ‘well’ for such a long time, we relapse.

Do your best to stop beating yourself up about it. Instead of taking it as a sign that nothing ever changes and it’s not worth attempting again, be as kind as possible to yourself.

You had quit. For however long you’d managed. You’ve done it, broken that pattern. You can do it again.

What helped you quit? What will you do differently this time? What worked from last time that you can repeat (as often as it takes to quit for good)?

You might be angry with yourself and feel you don’t deserve your kindness but chances are, beating yourself up will make those unhealthy cravings even stronger.

Approaching your relapse with kindness and curiosity (Interesting! I just did ___ for the first time in ___! I wonder what triggered it…) can offer real insight.

What have you learned from this relapse to help you tweak your routine? What will you replace the bad habit with? Our brains need something concrete.

When I quit smoking back in 2001, the chemist wouldn’t sell me a nicotine ‘inhalator’ AND the patches and a friend said I sounded like a proper addict when I was insisting that I ‘needed’ the inhalator.

In the end (of course, I could have gone to a different chemist), I chose a clear quartz crystal wand to use as a fake cigarette to replicate that deep breath and while I still occasionally dream about Marlboro (never enjoying one, always, ‘Oh no! I had a cigarette! Am addicted again!’ nightmares), I’ve not had one since.

When we do anything repeatedly, our brain creates neural pathways to make the action habitual. If you imagine your brain as a jungle, the things we do most frequently become like well-worn pathways and so become effortless (reaching for that cigarette/drink/extra packet of crisps/blade/whatever) during certain times.

Think about it, you probably don’t even think about which foot you pop into your trousers first when you get dressed as it’s probably the thing you’ve done habitually since you learned to dress yourself as a small child. Learning a new way of doing something and making it habitual takes more effort.

What are your biggest triggers? For me, I’d smoke as soon as I opened my eyes in the morning and there were certain points every day when I would reach for a cigarette so I came up with as many alternatives for each of these times as possible.

Be patient with yourself as you create your replacement (positive! healthy! life enhancing!) habit. How long have you been doing the thing you want to quit? Chances are, it’s pretty embedded.

Give yourself time to create the new neural pathways that will enable your healthier habit to become your default.

Yes, it might be really hard but it is worth persevering. Create a reward system of treats to keep you motivated and on track.

Certain drugs release feel-good hormone dopamine really quickly (hence their addictive nature) but we can mimic this (to an less intense degree) by anticipating different, healthier rewards and honouring our promises to ourselves.

You’ve quit before. You can do it again (and again, and again). Each time offers new insights and learning and you will get there.

Be as kind as humanly possible to yourself and you’ll be much more likely to get there faster and less painfully.

Metta xx

Image courtesy of nuttakit / freedigitalphotos.net


Before you choose a crystal…

On Tuesdays, I’ll be blogging about working with crystals for self healing, meditation, anchoring coaching goals, grounding, bringing a sense of clarity, protection and all sorts of other related things.

Whether you’re buying a piece of jewelry or already choosing stones for more meditative purposes, pause before you choose.

Centre yourself in a way that feels comfortable. Think about what you want this crystal to help you with: Meditating this morning? Giving you confidence for that presentation? Soothing physical, emotional, mental or spiritual pain? Helping you feel more grounded? Aiding manifestation? Clarifying guidance?

Once you’re clear on what you want support with, ask to be guided to the right crystal for you at this moment. It may feel like a strange thing to do but listening to your intuition is more powerful than anything written in any crystal dictionary.

Sure, certain stones are associated with certain qualities but there are so many variations (is the stone polished or a rock? How big is it? Where was it mined? All of this will impact its energy) that tuning into your own inner guidance will help you choose the right one every time.

Now all you have to do is believe that the ‘Me, me, me!’ type energy one of the crystals is emitting is worth listening to.

Sometimes, you’ll know long before you even see it which one you’re going for. Other times, one may seem to sparkle that bit more brightly. Sometimes, you may place your hand a few inches over them and the right stone for you may make the palm of your hand tingle.

Pay attention and trust that there’s a wise part of you that knows exactly what you need.

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