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My highlights from Chairing yesterday’s Working with Coaching day for BACP

Yesterday was in the planning for many, many months – as a member of BACP’s Coaching Executive and Chair since January last year, I knew that this would mean my hosting the day.

This felt both a little daunting (80ish people expected – turned out, it was fully booked and, including us and staff, we had nearly 120!) and cheeky.

After all, Carolyn Mumby, our Chair Elect, did soooo much of the heavy lifting in taking the lead in organising  the day and liaising with the speakers, along with BACP’s staff (who make the actual smooth running of events look so effortless).

The whole Coaching Executive – Sally Brown, Gill Fennings-Monkman MBE, Steve Page and Michele Down, spent days (we’re all volunteers)  creating the format, briefing for presenters and helping fine tune content.

It came together beautifully.

Side Plank

When I did this Side Plank in the morning, burning off some stress hormones so I could better relax into presenting, I had NO idea I’d be teaching yoga in a dress later on – one of our speakers was ill so I did a little impromptu mindful breathing and chair yoga during some of what would have been her slot.

Intro

Introducing the event

Jackee Holder

The fantabulous Jackee Holder opened the day with a session on trees as metaphors and reflective writing

Carolyn Mumby

BACP Coaching Chair Elect, Carolyn Mumby‘s talk on working with young people inspired me to consider doing some additional training in this area

Sue Sutcliffe

Sue Sutcliffe (typo on pic not here) made the case for preventative couples’ work (ie, working on our relationships sooner rather than waiting for things to go wrong and potentially implode).

Catherine Macadam

Catherine Macadam talked about coaching for unpaid carers, pointing out just how many of us have or will be carers (or need care) at some point in our lives

David Britten

David Britten spoke about coaching for recovery

I realised that this was exactly what I had done – I trained as a life coach when self-loathing was my default position. The coaching tools I learned and coaching I experienced helped me begin to overcome how I felt deep down and after years of coaching and adding other therapies, I felt ready to delve deeper and do the counselling training which I knew would involve personal therapy.

I am so glad that through David’s and others’ work, more people are benefitting from coaching and the building on resources that this can offer. Obviously, it makes sense to go to a coach with psychological training too but coaching alone can be a powerful support.

At this point, I no longer have pics as the lovely person photographing was then offering timer support to the speakers:

Katharine Collins was an inspiration. Her talk on ‘coaching through a queer lense’, and encouraging people to define their niches based on the changes we wish to see in the world is the best niching advice I’ve ever come across.

And Miranda Rock, talking about the journey between qualifying and working with executives and directors was a breath of fresh air.

Jackee then helped us ground the day and identify our own personal next steps. Being an integrative and expansive soul, my own next steps felt more like ‘find out more about x, y and z’ than narrowing down as so many of the speakers had inspired me but I know that I’m also drilling down to simplify my offerings.

This blog post represents my own experience of the day but the energy in the hotel was gorgeous and feedback so far has been incredibly positive.

People, passionate about counselling and coaching, wanting to learn more, to find out how to serve more people. It was a delight listening to the speakers, talking to delegates, catching up with the team (our last meeting had to be cancelled due to snow so it had been a while since we’d all met in person).

We’re already planning another Working With Coaching Day for York in November – if you’re a member of BACP Coaching or BACP and have ideas or feedback you’d like to share about yesterday and upcoming events, do email me – eve@feelbettereveryday.co.uk

And feel free to comment below.

Love,

Eve

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My highlights from BACP’s Practitioner Conference

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I’ve had a fab few days in lovely Leeds for the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy’s Practitioner Conference.

As part of BACP’s Coaching Executive (I’m their Specialist for Communications), it was brilliant to spend so much time with my colleagues and to learn more about the way they work.

I had some lovely feedback about my own presentations on becoming more embodied as practitioners (sharing self care tools with therapists and coaches and was glad I’d risked sharing some crystal therapy and EFT (emotional freedom technique) as well as the more obvious body and breath work.)

An unexpected but much appreciated bonus on the Friday was a glorious (if stupid o’clock in the morning) swim. I had felt overly optimistic packing swim things and delusional when asking at Reception about the pool (it hadn’t been on the website) but it turned out they had a shuttle which took me to a local golf club.

One of my highlights was seeing the 45 delegates in my Friday workshop being so willing to participate and happily experimenting with Power Poses (if you haven’t already, do check out Amy Cuddy’s Ted Talk here for more on this simple and effective technique).

Professor Stephen Joseph’s keynote on Post Traumatic Growth resonated with my own experience (personal and professional) as well as fitting so well with psychosynthesis which sees people’s potential as much as their wounding.

How wonderful to hear that 30-70% of survivors later (often MUCH later – this has to happen in their own time and on their own terms) see the trauma/s as a springboard into a more meaningful life.

I bought the last copy of his What Doesn’t Kill Us book and turned around and he was there so got an autographed copy.

Anne Scoging differentiated between complex and complicated trauma and gave an amazing talk about her experiences with the latter through her work with London firefighters.

I was sorry to not be able to attend more but with so many interesting offerings, I stuck with the trauma and self-care strands for Day 1.

BACP’s Jade and Richard and others (not to mention all the volunteers on BACP’s various Executives) did an amazing job organising it all.

That evening, we met some of BACP Coaching’s Network Group Organisers who were more local to Leeds than London. So great to put faces to names. If you’re a coach-therapist or simply want to find out more, it’s worth checking out local meetings and you can find out more information here.

Day 2 was about integrative coach-therapy and, having been in the background while Steve Page and Gill Fennings-Monkman put such a fab day together, it was great to be part of it unfolding and to meet so many lovely new coach-therapists and therapists who were simply interested in learning more about coaching.

We started with a Panel discussion and it was inspirational for me to hear more about their diverse journeys into coach-therapy.

My more holistic route into coach-therapy was very different from the others’ (more corporate) and, again, I’d been a little apprehensive about sharing some of it but people responded really positively.

Margaret Chapman guided some of us in a mindfulness meditation at lunch and Carolyn Mumby was, as ever, a superstar stepping in at the last minute after the lovely Jayne Hildreth (get well soon!) was too ill to make it for her segment.

Carolyn, Gill, Michele Down and Becky Wright pulled together to create an integrative workshop on integrative coach-therapy and some of the different approaches (including a comedic and informative role play session with Gill playing a fictional client and Michele pausing to explain her process at different stages throughout the session).

Steve Page led a thought provoking workshop around the quality of supervision for coach-therapists and then I shared some more self-care tools before we completed the day with a roundup discussion.

All in all, I feel fortunate to have met so many lovely people and to have got to know the team better.

As well as being part of such an exciting, pioneering and innovative way of working, it’s easy to occasionally feel a little isolated.

I imagine that the feeling of gratitude for community and support I felt in Leeds will stay with me for a long time.

If you were there, what were YOUR highlights? Feel free to share below.

Metta,

Eve

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Personal Consultancy – the book launch

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I had a lovely time at Debra and Nash‘s book launch last night.

Personal Consultancy is a model for integrating coaching and counselling/psychotherapy. And, of course, that can sound really jargony but, essentially, it’s about bringing ALL of who we are as coaches/therapists to best benefit our clients.

Even though I’ve been sober for a very long time (and it’s whisky I miss most), I loved Nash’s analogy of gin and tonic v tequila. In the first, the ingredients (gin, tonic and lime – coaching, therapy etc) are blended together and it’s hard to isolate each drop.

Tequila keeps things separate (licking the salt, downing the shot and sucking the lemon) but they still work together.

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Through this book and by co-founding AICTP, Debra and Nash have created a forum for those of us with more diverse backgrounds to consider how best to work with clients. And their middle section takes into account many more ways of working by including chapters by contributors including Linda Aspey, Carolyn Mumby (pictured below) and Yannick Jacob.

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If you’d like to buy the book, you can find out more here.

If you’re considering having some coaching and/or counselling/psychotherapy, you may find the book of interest (or simply ask your potential coach-therapist more about the way they work) but if you work in the field, I think you’ll find it very helpful.

You can also benefit from meeting other integrative therapists at BACP Coaching events as well as (I am a member of and love (so inspirational) both groups and recently became Chair* for the AICTP London group).

As the authors said last night, the world seems ready for an integrative approach. Support (or ‘consultancy’) that creates solid foundations as well as a beautiful building (their slides illustrated it well).

And if you’re in/near enough Witham, Essex (or happy to work via Skype and telephone everywhere), I’m very happy to talk to you about the way I work with these (and my other) services at Feel Better Every Day. (But wherever you’re based, do check out AICTP and BACP Coaching to find someone near you.)

Metta x

* Please email eve@feelbettereveryday.co.uk if you’d like to join us/our mailing list/find out more.

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