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Love and ‘My mom has a saying that behind every successful child is an astonished parent’ ~ Cory Booker



Cory Booker with Trevor Noah (right) on The Daily Show

Wishing all the mothers a Happy Mother’s Day for Sunday – I thought Cory Booker’s mother’s quote was just delightful.

He was being interviewed by Trevor Noah on The Daily Show and appears to still be as humble and service oriented and brave and kind as he has in every other interview I’ve read or seen with him.

Years ago, I remember reading that when he was Mayor of Newark, New Jersey (I felt an affinity as I lived in Newark, Delaware for a year as a kid), someone had contacted him about snowplows being needed and their elderly parents being snowed in. Next thing they knew, the then Mayor was out shovelling the snow himself.

I don’t remember all the details but this man – now Senator and, hopefully (after Hillary and Kirsten Gillibrand? I don’t even get to vote, this is seriously none of my business) a future US President – has literally saved lives. When Jon Stewart interviewed him years ago, I think he was compared to a superhero. He just seems so kind.

In the interview I saw this week, he was doing his best to think of nice things to say about people on opposite sides of the political spectrum.

And then he talked about love, in the widest sense. Easy to say, challenging to do:

‘Love everyone. Love seems like a soft word but I preach against tolerance because that is held up as some kind of ideal in this country, that we tolerate each other. But that’s a cynical state of being that says that if you disappear from the face of the earth, I’m no better or worse off. Love says, “I recognise that you have worth and value and I need you.” There’s an old saying, “If you want to go fast, go alone but if you want to go far, go together… we need each other.”’

I adore this man.

When we feel safe, it’s easier to hold that sense of love for our fellow beings. When we feel threatened, we view the whole world with suspicion. I always tell my yoga students and clients that just as some days we’re physically stronger and more flexible (and other days less so), sometimes, a Metta (loving kindness) meditation can feel amazingly heart expansive and empowering. Other times, it’s just too challenging to send loving kindness to ourselves, let alone people we’re struggling with (who am I kidding – it’s often hardest to send it to ourselves). Love is expansive. Fear makes us contract.

The theme continued in a yoga class I attended today. Sometimes I cover classes for the lovely Emma Turnbull but today I got to enjoy taking her class. She used Deepak Chopra as inspiration re pranayama, asana and meditation and encouraged us to give to everyone we met all week. While this can be an actual gift, Emma suggested kind thoughts and well wishes.

I’m used to doing my morning Metta meditation (sending loving kindness to various people and groups and the world at large) but have, so far, found it both lovely and challenging. First off, it’s so easy to forget. And then (already!) transformative.

Cycling home, popped into the Post Office – crazy long queue and one poor cashier on her own. Normally, I’d have sighed and pulled out my book. Today (also partly inspired by Dorothy Nesbitt and Art Giser :)), I was happy to just stand and be, sending well wishes to all the others in the queue (and the cashier, of course).

This is probably one of those posts where I forget quite quickly after writing but it’s a practice I want to play with more. Of course we’re human and it’s not always possible. But it’s so much more empowering to walk through this world from and expansive, open, loving place.

What helps you feel expansive?

How have you found Metta and similar meditations?

Do you agree with Senator Booker that love is better than mere tolerance?

Feel free to comment below.


Eve x




Fridge Magnet Therapy with Chris Milbank

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(This magnet image is showing up fine in draft but once published, goes horizontal – spooky)

I’ve long loved energy therapies. Woo woo as many sound, I’m trained and experienced in a fair few. Crystal therapy was the first (crystals helped me where hospital prescribed painkillers didn’t so, having been interested since my teens, I became open to learning more and ended up training over three years. I still use them daily).

NLP has its energetic elements and Art Giser’s gorgeous Energetic NLP (ENLP) has been so powerful (and speedy), with great results in so many areas of my life, as well as being a tool I sometimes share with clients and students, I incorporate some into my daily meditation each morning.

And EFT works with meridians (something I first learned about during my crystal therapy training although I feel more comfortable with the chakras).

Even the kind of counselling I do, psychosynthesis, has its energetic elements. It’s creator, Roberto Assagioli, had worked with Freud but was also very interested in potential as much as wounding. Eastern philosophy as well as Western science. I’ve done some training with Energetic Psychotherapy pioneer, Phil Mollon.

And, of course, yoga works with energy. So it’s a big part of what I do, both for my own self-care and when working with clients and students.

Still, when I was invited to an evening of Fridge Magnet Therapy, I definitely laughed at the idea. One friend rolled her eyes and said, ‘Only you, Eve’ (although the evening was FILLED with similarly curious souls so I wasn’t the only one by a long shot!).

I’d not heard of Chris Milbank but the other Solar Events trainings I’d attended (Art Giser‘s ENLP and Joanna Martin‘s Presentation Secrets) had far exceeded my expectations so I was open to it.

And it rocked. Jemma had included some black cat fridge magnets in the selection she’d bought so I chose one in honour of Rainbow (see above. Of COURSE I chose a black cat over unicorns, mermaids, witches and other magical creatures).

Chris seemed smiley and down to earth. He was also laughing at his creation of Fridge Magnet Therapy but as he spoke about more traditional magnet therapy and the meridians, it made sense. (Again, I know that much of what makes sense to me sounds nuts to my loved ones, let alone strangers.)

He pointed out that apart from us knowing that meridians exist because we feel energy work WORKING, Pierre de Vernejoul demonstrated these electrical pathways’ existence by injecting dye and showing visibly how it moved around this energy system.

I volunteered to be first guinea pig as while not phobic, I had a fair bit of dread about my upcoming dental surgery. As with EFT and NLP, he tested as he went along, I’d be feeling much better about it and he’d throw in something about my not just needing the one implant to replace my poor broken tooth but that I’d need 6. A week. On my toes.

Of course, this made me laugh as well as cringe and I continued following his instructions using the magnet along a meridien (this can be done via Skype as the person uses the magnet on him or herself). At one point (I was also a little self conscious being in front of a fairly large group), I joked about throwing myself out of the window.

I had no idea where that had come from but after the demonstration, when I sat back in my seat and made notes,

The upcoming dental treatment felt much less daunting and as I wrote, I remembered being a young teenager, having four teeth removed in order to have a fixed brace fitted (someone used to call me Sharky as my teeth were growing over each other). Before going under, I remembered having a real sense of dread. The dentist (not my usual lovely soul) was clearly in a bad mood and I had a strong sense of him meaning me harm. I remember actively wanting to leap out of the window to get away from him.

I know from the yoga therapy and other trauma work just how adept the body is at storing memories but the gums? Teeth? This astonished me as I made the connection last night. When I think back, I’m not sure if that was the last thing I remembered before waking up with four fewer teeth or if I had the teeth removed by someone less sadistic another time but I remember that feeling.

So I was lucky enough to experienced Fridge Magnet Therapy’s benefits direct from its inventor.

Throughout the rest of the evening, as well as some other demonstrations, we worked on some of our own beliefs and issues. And as with other intense energy work experiences, I slept really well afterwards.

Its something I’m delighted to have come across and I know I’ll offer it as an option, when it feels appropriate, as part of sessions, workshops and classes.

As with EFT and crystals and yogic breaths and so on, while I believe they have energetic benefits, you really don’t have to for it to work.

Even the act of thinking to yourself, ‘Hmmm, _____ is holding me back/bugging me/causing upset/whatever… I know, I’ll play with that Fridge Magnet Therapy’ (or EFT or whatever feels good to you) offers a way of remembering you’re more than your ruminating mind.

That issue you want support with (or to help yourself with) is intense enough to be bothering you. By actively moving your hand and the magnet along the meridian (or tapping or whatever you choose), you’re changing your posture, you’re probably calming your breath, you’re almost certainly laughing. You’re helping your body’s natural healing capabilities to kick in. And there are no side effects (apart from, maybe, a little embarrassment).

If you’d like to find out more, Chris is running a weekend training course in February (again, through the ever fab Solar Events) so, if you’re interested in learning how to elevate this humble fridge decoration to a therapeutic tool, I recommend it!

What’s the most ‘woo woo’ therapy you’ve tried?

How did it help?

What would you LIKE to try?

Feel free to comment below.


Eve x


Gender grounding (and me) featured in Soul & Spirit magazine (February 2015)


You can click here to read the whole gender grounding SSFeb15GenderGrounding feature and click here to read Jemma’s step by step instructions (if you’d like to try it yourself).

What are your favourite ways to ground?