My Rapport feature on posture, body language and relationships (published Autumn 2016)


If you haven’t already come across Amy Cuddy’s work, you can read more here: RapportPostureAutumn16

It also includes tips from Elena Angel on openhearted body language with loved ones.

What’s your default posture?

How does it feel to experiment with more powerful, expansive and openhearted ways of sitting and standing?

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Embrace your inner superhero


I regularly teach clients, yoga students and workshop participants about Amy Cuddy’s fantabulous research into how changing our posture can change our lives.

You can see her Ted Talk here.

And her delightful book, Presence gives many more examples.

In a nutshell, when we expand our posture and hold it for 2 minutes or longer, we increase our testosterone (confidence! competence! courage!) while reducing our cortisol levels (so we feel less stressed and more empowered.

We might make like Wonder Woman or Superman, creating a star fish shape, making the kind of victory sign with our bodies athletes make when they win (arms outstretched, chest out) or taking a yoga pose like Warrior II (click here for more information). Anything expansive.

Essentially, by taking such a pose, we’re sending signals of confidence to our own brains (which get us out of that hunched posture that indicates we’re under threat and then relays the information that it’s safe to relax and be present to the rest of our body) as well as letting others know that we’re confident and capable.

We’re not going to be risk taking but we can bring our, as Amy Cuddy says, ‘boldest selves to our greatest challenges’.

I’ve heard of people power posing in car parks next to their cars before going in to make a presentation.

Shonda Rhimes is such a fan, she wrote it into an episode of Grey’s Anatomy where Amelia was about to perform an especially arduous 25 hour brain op on a colleague.

Sometimes, just taking a power pose can make us grin and remember we’ve got this (be it a first date, job interview, exam or even getting dressed on a particularly challenging day).

It’s not about dominating anyone, just getting our own bodies into a state in which we remember our own resourcefulness.

Other times, unfolding ourselves to take up more space in our lives might feel quite challenging. We can build up.

Try it. Choose one at a time and time yourself for 2 minutes or longer. See how it makes you feel.

Which is your favourite?

What did you notice about how you felt afterwards?

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Dragon tails, superheroes and somatic presence


I had a lovely day at the fantabulous Clare Myatt’s somatic presence workshop. My highlights included:

  • learning additional ways to ground and centre (eyes open made it a radical change to my existing tools)
  • new ways to tune into the body’s wisdom when making decisions and
  • a resilience building exercise which sounds too bizarre to write about but which was incredibly valuable both personally and professionally.

Bonus – really lovely group of people to spend the day with.

Find out more about Clare’s work here.

Then, I came home to Amy ‘Power Pose’ Cuddy’s fab new book, Presence. I’d learned about her research during my yoga therapy training. Since then, I’ve taught it to countless clients, students and workshop attendees.

In a nutshell, Cuddy’s research was around whether humans taking up more space might impact our confidence as primates of higher social standing exemplified these power poses (think men on the Tube).

Her research makes it fun, around expansive superhero (or yoga poses like Warrior II) poses. I’ve heard of people doing this by their cars before presentations but you don’t have to as the effects last for hours, increasing testosterone and reducing cortisol after holding them for just 2+ minutes.

Not only did they feel less stressed and more confident, but they were seen as more competent by strangers.

You can see the famous Ted Talk here.

What I hadn’t known was that the Harvard professor’s interest in presence started when she felt like an imposter in her own body after a car crash left her with a traumatic brain injury.

It’s a gorgeous book which, like Clare’s workshops, I’d recommend not just for coach-therapists and yoga therapists but for everyone.

What helps you feel more embodied (at ease in your own skin, content, powerful, safe, relaxed, open and so on)?

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Eve x



On BBC Essex today – sharing confidence tips for women (and men!) who apologise ‘too much’


It was a pleasure, as ever, joining Sadie Nine on BBC Essex this morning. Apparently, there’s an app now, that shows an alert if your email is too apologetic. I know I used to apologise so much, Sorry was practically my middle name. Switching automatic ‘sorry’s for ‘thank you’s helped (our brains need to replace the habits we want to quit with something better) helped and I also learned to be kinder to myself instead of beating myself up, compounding my overly apologetic, ‘Please don’t throw me off the planet for one false step’ nature.

Becoming more embodied (more – progress not perfection) has helped and I love sharing some of the tools that are so useful (such as the Power Poses Amy Cuddy’s Harvard research popularised).

You can listen here

Would an app like the one mentioned help you?

Do you think you apologise too much?

Do you find it really hard to apologise, even when you wish you could?

What helps you?

Feel free to comment below.


Eve x