My piece on Productive Struggle (Rapport, January 2018)

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Another piece featuring Rainbow MagnifiCat (the picture is not of her but of another adorable feline).

You can click this link to read the whole piece Business 57 Benefits of Productive Struggle 14

Which struggles do you look back on and see as most productive in your life so far?

What might help you better support your clients (and loved ones) through – from a distance – in the future?

Feel free to comment below.

love,

Eve

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Feel Better Friday video: Do you feel better when you get outside?

Full disclosure: Two minutes after recording this, we headed back as we nearly kersplatted in the mud.

So the rest of our walk was on the high street and it was still lovely (albeit not woods lovely).

Do you have days where you get so caught up on the treadmill of life that getting out, even for a few minutes, feels like too much effort?

How do you feel when you manage a short (or longer) walk?

How do you feel when you don’t bother?

What will help you do more of what feels good?

Feel free to comment below!

love,

Eve

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My highlights from Chairing yesterday’s Working with Coaching day for BACP

Yesterday was in the planning for many, many months – as a member of BACP’s Coaching Executive and Chair since January last year, I knew that this would mean my hosting the day.

This felt both a little daunting (80ish people expected – turned out, it was fully booked and, including us and staff, we had nearly 120!) and cheeky.

After all, Carolyn Mumby, our Chair Elect, did soooo much of the heavy lifting in taking the lead in organising  the day and liaising with the speakers, along with BACP’s staff (who make the actual smooth running of events look so effortless).

The whole Coaching Executive – Sally Brown, Gill Fennings-Monkman MBE, Steve Page and Michele Down, spent days (we’re all volunteers)  creating the format, briefing for presenters and helping fine tune content.

It came together beautifully.

Side Plank

When I did this Side Plank in the morning, burning off some stress hormones so I could better relax into presenting, I had NO idea I’d be teaching yoga in a dress later on – one of our speakers was ill so I did a little impromptu mindful breathing and chair yoga during some of what would have been her slot.

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Introducing the event

Jackee Holder

The fantabulous Jackee Holder opened the day with a session on trees as metaphors and reflective writing

Carolyn Mumby

BACP Coaching Chair Elect, Carolyn Mumby‘s talk on working with young people inspired me to consider doing some additional training in this area

Sue Sutcliffe

Sue Sutcliffe (typo on pic not here) made the case for preventative couples’ work (ie, working on our relationships sooner rather than waiting for things to go wrong and potentially implode).

Catherine Macadam

Catherine Macadam talked about coaching for unpaid carers, pointing out just how many of us have or will be carers (or need care) at some point in our lives

David Britten

David Britten spoke about coaching for recovery

I realised that this was exactly what I had done – I trained as a life coach when self-loathing was my default position. The coaching tools I learned and coaching I experienced helped me begin to overcome how I felt deep down and after years of coaching and adding other therapies, I felt ready to delve deeper and do the counselling training which I knew would involve personal therapy.

I am so glad that through David’s and others’ work, more people are benefitting from coaching and the building on resources that this can offer. Obviously, it makes sense to go to a coach with psychological training too but coaching alone can be a powerful support.

At this point, I no longer have pics as the lovely person photographing was then offering timer support to the speakers:

Katharine Collins was an inspiration. Her talk on ‘coaching through a queer lense’, and encouraging people to define their niches based on the changes we wish to see in the world is the best niching advice I’ve ever come across.

And Miranda Rock, talking about the journey between qualifying and working with executives and directors was a breath of fresh air.

Jackee then helped us ground the day and identify our own personal next steps. Being an integrative and expansive soul, my own next steps felt more like ‘find out more about x, y and z’ than narrowing down as so many of the speakers had inspired me but I know that I’m also drilling down to simplify my offerings.

This blog post represents my own experience of the day but the energy in the hotel was gorgeous and feedback so far has been incredibly positive.

People, passionate about counselling and coaching, wanting to learn more, to find out how to serve more people. It was a delight listening to the speakers, talking to delegates, catching up with the team (our last meeting had to be cancelled due to snow so it had been a while since we’d all met in person).

We’re already planning another Working With Coaching Day for York in November – if you’re a member of BACP Coaching or BACP and have ideas or feedback you’d like to share about yesterday and upcoming events, do email me – eve@feelbettereveryday.co.uk

And feel free to comment below.

Love,

Eve

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My EFT and yoga tips in Woman & Home’s Feel Good You (New Year 2018 issue)

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Obviously, I’m a big fan of talk therapy, too but loved sharing some information around some body based alternatives, EFT (emotional freedom technique) and yoga which I often incorporate into my counselling and coaching, when appropriate – thanks for including me, Charlotte Haigh.

Have you ever talked about something too much?

What helped you get unstuck?

Feel free to share below.

love,

Eve

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My tips on staying motivated and 365 Ways to Feel Better featured in today’s Sun newspaper

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Thanks Claire Dunwell for including some of my tips for staying motivated when you feel like giving up on your New Year’s Resolutions.

What helps you stay on track?

Feel free to share below.

love,

Eve

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Join my free #30dayeftchallenge and boost your self-care

I had the plague (‘flu) over Christmas and New Year and lost the will to take even the most basic self-care steps for days as I wasn’t up to it.

Have been well again for nearly a week and am doing regular Happy Dances at having energy and being able to do things. This renewed appreciation of life has also coincided with my effort to tap daily – I’ve meditated and done (at least a little) yoga daily since 2013 but would normally only tap on myself when feeling pretty dire.

And every time, I’d be amazed at how quickly it helps! There’s something so powerful about VOICING our upsets, even just to ourselves. Then, the concentration of tapping specific points helps stop rumination, getting us back into our bodies and the present moment. And, of course, the fact that we’re working with meridians, tapping acupressure points, means we’re releasing blocked energy.

It might take a minute or two or, if something’s especially upsetting, much longer. But by doing it daily, I’m noticing how much happier I am feeling in general. It’s helping me get out of my own way and be more open to opportunities.

By creating this simple challenge, we’ll tap daily and share #day1 (or whatever day it is for you) and #30dayeftchallenge and, if you want #pain #niggles #anger #grudges #stress #anxiety #worry #block #cranky #gratitudes #sleep #whateveritisyouvetappedonwithoutsharingmorethanfeelsgoodforyou

To give you an example of how I’ll be sharing, today’s tweet will be as simple as:

#30dayeftchallenge #eft #day1 I launched this challenge today and hope you’ll join me – today, I tapped around #health What did you tap on?

I’ll be sharing on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and hope this will grow so please share with anyone you think might benefit.

EFT is a transformative (and simple, and free) tool. I qualified in 2006 and became an advanced practitioner a few years ago. I included some tips around it in my book, 365 Ways to Feel Better and you can access a free video below if you don’t already know how to tap or want a reminder.

I’ll also be answering questions on my social media pages so please connect with me there as anything you’re unsure about is likely to help others, too.

For facebook, my book group (with extra support for people reading the book) is accessible HERE

You can also like my page HERE if you’d like regular updates

I’m on Twitter @wellbeingeve

Instagram @evemenezescunningham

You can find out more about some of the research around EFT, my approach and access a couple of interviews I did about EFT in general and for trauma for BACP’s trauma conference a few years ago HERE

Hope you find tapping as helpful as I have!

It can be as simple or complex as you want to make it – I’ve shared instructions to the Short Cut for simplicity but a quick Google will bring up loads of resources.  I include EFT as part of some of my coaching if that’s of interest – I’ll also be tagging other EFT practitioners in case they’re more local to you and you want to work face to face.

It’s also worth checking out the Tapping World Summit (HERE) and registering for this free event with loads of big names (created by Nick and Jess Ortner). The world can be your lobster!

Feel share to comment below as well as on social media. I’ll be answering as many questions as possible.

love,

Eve

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Feel Better Friday video to help you let go of 2017 and bring in the new

Pretty much every time I go to the seaside, I consciously release whatever energies I’m ready to release by choosing a stone and imagining them pouring into that stone before I throw it into the sea – knowing all those energies can be recycled for the benefit of the planet.

Then I take another stone and imagine all the things I want to bring into my life and release that into the sea, too.

At this time of year, just part the Winter Solstice and as we take stock of 2017, let go of what no longer serves us and think about renewal and what we want to bring into our 2018, you might want to try it yourself – this video shows how you might do so.

Are you ready to unblock some of that older energy to start the new year with more openess for all the good life has to offer?

How do you prepare for the new year?

What helps you let go?

Feel free to share below.

Happy Christmas!

love,

Eve

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Using diaries to enhance your self-care

Wow. It’s a really long time since I blogged – the last few weeks, I’ve been experimenting with videos. From now on, I’ll be blogging each new video and I’m planning to make them mostly #feelbetterfriday videos as, apparently, it’s better to do such things on the same day each week.

This week’s video is sharing my love of stationery, especially diaries. As well as a blank one for journalling, I use several each year for different purposes:

  • appointments
  • things to do
  • keeping track of finances
  • keeping track of habits and how I’m doing in terms of making the new improved behaviour habitual

The video above shares some simple tools to help you do the same as well as ideas for becoming a mood detective into what helps YOU feel better so you can do more of those things on purpose.

There are also lots of great planners available – I’ve used Danielle LaPorte’s and the Daily Greatness in the past.

What kind of diaries do you use?

What is your top tip?

Wishing you lots of fun in planning your best year yet for 2018.

love,

Eve

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Thanks again, Chelmsford Waterstones!

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I had a lovely Saturday afternoon at the Chelmsford branch of Waterstones, attempting to look ‘friendly but not creepy’ as people paused to look at my book and I signed copies for those who wanted to buy one.

Looking forward to the next, at Billericay Library (click HERE) on 25th and am also now offering personalised signed copies for people who can’t get to various signings and events but want their own copy or a gift for someone else (click HERE).

love,

Eve

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Happy World Freedom Day!

 

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What does the word freedom MEAN to you?

What would being truly free, FEEL like?

How might it feel to make a list of everything you’re ready to release? Tapping (EFT) can be a wonderful way to free yourself from the blocked energy. You can access a video explaining how to do it for yourself HERE.

Maybe freedom means ending a relationship or setting a healthy boundary and redefining the relationship so you’re not betraying yourself to please someone else?

Perhaps it means crossing a load of items of your To Do list and either delegating/outsourcing the essentials or letting things go completely.

Maybe it means some kind of sabbatical or break to travel and experience a different way of life.

Perhaps it means speaking out about something you’ve been holding onto.

What will help YOU feel even a taste of freedom today?

Feel free to post what freedom means to you today below.

love,

Eve

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