I adore this space. Right in the heart of Colchester town yet peaceful and quiet. When I got in touch with the owner about the possibility of having a Colchester book signing / workshop event, I liked the space so much I decided to expand my practice from Witham (where my Feel Better Every Day Consultancy is based) to offer a few slots each week in Colchester.
On Saturday, I facilitated a yoga and meditation workshop in the loveliest space I’ve ever taught in.
We had a little visitor before the yoga nidra segment.
Enormous thanks, Jo, for welcoming me to your spectacular space.
The more grounded we are, the higher we can reach. If you’re feeling stuck, in any area of your life or work, rather than trying to rush through the feelings, what might happen if you allow yourself to really pay attention to what’s going on for you?
I love when things make sense in hindsight (Oh, THAT was what my body was trying to tell me when I was in pain with that…) but find the deciphering phase more frustrating. Even so, with practice, I think I’ve become a bit better at it. Even if it simply means trusting the process more. Allowing the ickiness before we can see beyond our feet and instead glimpse the sun through the trees above us.
The more we bend our knees, the closer we get to the ground, the higher we can jump.
What helps you feel most grounded?
What do you resist the most when you know getting grounded would really help you?
Right now, I’ve been resisting cleaning my bathroom – something I do automatically each week but which this week feels like something I don’t want to do. Typing this and recognising that cleaning – like cooking, gardening, getting organised, going for a walk and so many other everyday things – is grounding means I’ll do it now… That feels much better.
Some people talk about needing to wash up before they can get down to writing. Rather than beating yourself up for procrastinating, recognising it as part of your process means you can enjoy it (as much as anyone can enjoy cleaning etc).
For some, it’s scrubbing potatoes. Others, organising closets. Digging… Any kind of exercise or movement.
Maybe it’s a more metaphorical digging you need and some time journaling can help you.
What helps you ground. What do you notice afterwards?
Next time you’re reaching high for something, when it feels like maybe you can’t quite reach, before grabbing a metaphorical ladder to climb even higher, come back to the earth. See what more you can accomplish from a more solid, strong and grounded foundation.
I’ve been working with the chakras since I started my crystal therapy training in 2001.
My first experience of a chakra meditation was so powerful, I thought I was having a heart attack (it was simply my heart centre beginning to heal – and don’t worry. This work can be very gentle as well as transformative).
Since then, I’ve added different ways of working with them, training with Anodea Judith in Chakra Yoga and creating my own yoga sequences and other blends with coaching, NLP, EFT, unique meditations and crystals.
In included a brief introduction to each of the seven main chakras in my book, 365 Ways to Feel Better: Self-care Ideas for Embodied Wellbeing (White Owl, 2017).
Now, this new integrative coaching programme, suitable for complete newcomers and people who want to integrate other ways of working with their chakras, will help you better support yourself in all areas of your life, from finances to creativity, personal power to connection and love, communication and self talk to enhancing your intuition and much more.
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This may look like an ordinary field but for me, it was my first ever walk in a field in which I wasn’t remotely worried about being shot by an angry farmer for accidentally trespassing.
I regularly admire fields from train windows, my not driving and assuming they were too far away for me to cycle to meant I didn’t even think about it.
… Until a local friend posted a similar picture and I wondered if I might hitch a lift with her next time she walked in such a splendid location.
Turned out, they’re local enough to not drive to! I love cycling back and forth from work and town along the River Walk in Witham (the River Brain is really more of a stream or even creek but it’s a beautiful stretch through town).
I adore the sea and make as many trips to it as possible as it feels so nourishing to be near it (ideally IN it).
When I lived in north Wales, I couldn’t get over the mountains and the sea in one place. While I love the look of mountains and rolling hills, I’m perfectly content to admire them without wanting to actually climb them.
I miss the woods from a town I lived in before and regret that the hill up to them meant I didn’t allow myself to get lost in the woods as often as I’d have liked.
I also loved cityscapes and typically get lost in London at least once a week. Meetings in different parts of the place I was born and lived in for many years mean I’m constantly in different parts, sometimes piecing locations and feeling more triumphant that I ought considering I’ve been using A-Zs, asking for directions and now, magical electronic maps.
Writing this, I’m gutted that I lost all my photos from Kenya when my computer imploded in 2012. Some of those landscapes were beyond spectacular.
What landscapes help you exhale more deeply?
How might you make more time for yourself to explore and get lost?
Feel free to share your favourites (pics of them, too, if you want) below.
*it’s coming up to two weeks since I learned to use the map function on my phone
Trite and hippyish as it may sound, sending love / loving kindness / metta etc isn’t easy.
Sometimes, it can be hard enough to wish ourselves well let alone people we see as ‘other’ or worse. It can be really challenging to see people we disagree with and attempting to send compassion and loving kindness rather than judgment.
I mean, who does that (be it ploughing into innocent people crossing a bridge and stabbing a policeman or boiling a prisoner alive… I could go on with horrors from just this week but won’t)?
And then, of course, there’s the judgment about how we ‘should’ all react. As if we could legislate our feelings even if we wanted to.
Over the years, I’ve learned that allowing myself to feel whatever I’m feeling is the best way through it. Judging myself for crying more over London than Mosul (I was born there, lived there for years, am in every week and passed through on Wednesday) wouldn’t have helped anyone.
Far more lives were lost in Mosul this week and I consciously feel guiltier as ‘our side’ is responsible yet, I can’t control what I cry over. Similarly, my tears for London were different to my (more intense) sobbing over the murder (and lack of his murderers being charged) of Darren Rainey in Florida and Timothy Caughman in New York.
I feel compelled to state, aloud, that (I hope!) most people who look white DON’T think like the awful white supremacist who killed him. I also feel rage at the injustice that as a white looking woman, I’m not expected to have to speak out against that in the way that, for example, peace loving Muslims are expected to denounce attacks that extremists undertake.
I feel hopeless when I think about terrorists but I don’t feel as afraid of them (nothing – that I know of – I can do to control or even influence their actions) as I do about a certain English woman who is passing off her hate speech on US telly as the norm for (diverse! Inclusive!) London.
However we feel, whatever our reactions – to global or more personal tragedies – we have a right to our feelings.
The more we give ourselves a bit of time and space to process and grieve and heal, the less likely we are to mess things up even more badly by lashing out at people we disagree with.
This is something simple, though not easy, that we can all do (should we want to) to contribute a teeny bit towards creating a safer, more peaceful world for all of us.
What might you do to be extra kind to yourself today?
Brushing your teeth at least twice a day. Flossing. Using those little interdental brushes I’ve imagined as mini toilet brushes ever since a friend said, ‘The ones that look like mini toilet brushes?’… it’s not hard.
And yet… How often does this basic self-care practice get missed?
In case it ever falls off your daily routine, I hope this feature, talking about some of the heart health benefits, will encourage you to take that 4 minutes a day to take better care of your teeth, gums and heart.