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My highlights from AICTP’s 2nd Conference on Integrative Practice

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Last week was a busy one in terms of integrative coaching conferences – you wait ages for one then two come along at once! (For interested people, our next BACP Coaching one will be this November, not so close to AICTP’s).

Much as I loved chairing BACP’s Working with Coaching Day on Monday 22nd (click HERE for my highlights), it was wonderful to be able to relax as a delegate and catch up with integrative friends and colleagues on the Saturday – same hotel, same FLOOR so extreme deja vu!

I keep saying it but can’t not – it is SUCH a delight to be in a room filled with people who are also working integratively.

Especially, for me, people like the fantabulous Dr Magdalena Bak-Maier (who’s workshop last year was so lovely it inspired me to rebook for this year’s conference even though I knew it would be a very busy week).

I was also intrigued by how Emanuela Fulli was (like me) integrating energy work into her practice, in her case Reiki.

And (drum roll), in spite of having read hundreds of marketing books etc over the nearly 14 years I’ve been running my own practice, I’ve (due to the integrative nature of my work) never been able to come up with a succinct ‘elevator pitch’ until yesterday. This was a direct result of Lisa Farr’s session on marketing.

I can now say, ‘I work with people who are ready to prioritise their mental health and wellbeing. I take a holistic approach to helping them create happier, fuller and more peaceful lives.’

Ever since Theresa May’s ‘citizen of the world = citizen of nowhere’ speech in 2016, I’ve felt that little bit less at home here (London born, Indian Irish (by way of Kenya), mostly raised in Essex, a year in the US then adopted Wales before moving back to London and Essex).

Hardly succinct. I’ve experimented with ‘born in London’ but that’s not enough.

It wasn’t something I’d ever felt massively conscious of as being lots of different things, it was only during the 2012 Olympics that I began to feel that maybe, at least culturally, having spent so much of my life here, I am a little ‘British’. (I’ve always had an Irish passport).

Maybe the two events being so close to each other made a difference but I realised that same diversity of approaches is what I love about integrative practice.

My new intro (Writer, Integrative Supervisor and Coach (with Counselling, Yoga, NLP, EFT and Crystals) is still on the long side but sooo much more succinct than some of the things I’ve called myself over the years.

We’re ALL more than just one thing. I love being able to choose from a range of tools to ask the person I’m working with how they’d like to move forward.

Were you there? What were your highlights? Feel free to share below.

love,

Eve

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What do you WANT to happen? (Rapport, October 2017)

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You can click this link to read the full piece: Quick Tips 56 Well Formed Outcomes 05

And, of course, it’s a practice to focus on what we want rather than on our fears.

What helps you?

Feel free to share below.

love,

Eve

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I know, I know, but, in case you’ve started your Christmas shopping…

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I can already hear the outrage. It’s only the start of November! And yet, some people LIKE to sort Christmas and other holiday shopping early. Some people (including me) are already REALLY looking forward to making 2018 the best yet.

If you’re interested, I’ve put together a few potential gift ideas – maybe treats for yourself, maybe a gift for a loved one.

My book, Sleep Yoga classes, 9 Week Chakra Coaching Programme and any integrative therapy session (ie, you can choose which you’d like to include – some coaching alongside yoga? Crystals? NLP? EFT? Meditation? Recently, I’ve been working with yoga and crystals at the same time – really interesting, powerful work) are a few potential gift ideas.

Click HERE for more information and ideas and get in touch if you have any questions.

I work with individuals and groups in Essex (Witham, Colchester and Frinton on Sea) and worldwide via Skype/Vsee and telephone.

I look forward to working with you (and your loved ones!) the rest of this year, in 2018 and beyond.

love,

Eve

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Billericay Library book signing on Saturday, 25th November

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Am really pleased to be doing a book signing in the town I did a lot of growing up in. If you’re local enough to Billericay, Essex and would like to join us, please come along.

And if you have any friends, relatives, colleagues etc there who might be interested, I’d really appreciate your letting them know about this.

Hope to see you there!

And you can find out more about this and other upcoming events HERE.

love,

Eve

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Feel Better Every Day on Sea – sessions now available in Frinton

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My main client space remains Witham, with the Feel Better Every Day Consultancy on the high street but, in recent months, I’ve been offering a few sessions a week from Colchester (and am starting teaching a Sleep Yoga class there in January).

As of this week, am delighted to be offering a few sessions a week from Frinton on Sea on Essex’s Sunshine Coast. The Connaught Clinic is just a few moments from the seafront and a short walk from the station.

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 Find out more HERE and, of course, let me know if you have any questions or would like to book an initial session with me.

love,

Eve

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This World Heart Day, you might want to ponder what makes your heart sing

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It’s a question I ask all my new clients and it often takes a while to answer.

We’re so used to noticing what brings us down. What makes us feel as if our hearts are breaking.

But what about what makes them soar? When was the last time you noticed your heart singing? Or even lifting just a little?

How do you find answering this question? Do you immediately know and have a list of things that bring joy to your heart and to your life?

Maybe you have an inkling of what used to make you happy but it’s been such a long time, you’ve forgotten?

Take a look at your diary/planner and notice which items lift your heart and which maybe make it sink a little.

Maybe you don’t have anything planned which actually makes it SING. If not, how can you fit something joy enhancing in?

Feel free to comment below.

love,

Eve

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Advanced practice alert

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Last week, I shared a Facebook post about a man who has been engaging with those who want to kill and oppress him in an effort to befriend them and let them get to know him as a person.

Daryl Davis has kept their KKK robes. Even typing the words makes me feel nauseous. Since the Charlottesville horror where a neo Nazi killed Heather Heyer and many other anti-racism protesters were hurt, the regular sight of them on the news, emboldened by their president, in 2017, has made me feel like I would physically be sick.

Yet Daryl Davis has found it in himself to do what Barack Obama encouraged us all to do before he left the White House and not only engage with the ‘other’ but befriend them.

Daryl Davis has been doing this for decades. You can read more HERE.

As the piece says, ‘He gets to know them because, in his words, “How can you hate me when you don’t even know me? Look at me and tell me to my face why you should lynch me.”’

While it hurts my soul to give any headspace to people filled with such hate, I think it’s phenomenal that Daryl Davis has found the strength to meet hate with love.

While I’ve always been what many of my nearest and dearest call ‘hard work’ (challenging casual racism, sexism etc), it feels more important now than ever to engage with the people we know personally who have been taught to hate and, with as much love and compassion as we can muster, attempting to hear the ‘other’ and be open to whatever is trying to emerge.

As Nelson Mandela wrote in Long Walk to Freedom, ‘No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin or his background or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.’

Resistance is hugely important. People acting out or threatening must be stopped. But pretending they don’t exist isn’t working.

So when we hear those milder versions by people we know or work with, we can curiously and compassionately encourage them to think about what they’re saying and explore. Not condone (at ALL) but pay attention.

This still feels beyond me, even as I type. And yet we all share the one planet.

What helps you listen to people you feel very opposed to?

Do you find that repeating your opinions louder and louder works or does opening up and hearing what someone else is trying to say create more room for progress?

Daryl Davis is an extreme example (I simply cannot imagine the courage and openness it must take. Even the keeping of the robes, I’d want to burn them and all they stand for) but we all have much smaller ways accessible to us to listen and hopefully, by doing so, help release some of that hate.

How do you feel at the prospect?

What has helped you if you’ve done something similar in the past?

Feel free to comment below.

love,

Eve

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In Prima, talking about how friends can help us stay motivated (July 2017)

Thanks, Charlotte Haigh, for including 365 Ways to Feel Better (White Owl, 2017) and some of my tips in this Prima feature
Thanks, Charlotte Haigh, for including 365 Ways to Feel Better (White Owl, 2017) and some of my tips in this Prima feature

You can read the whole piece HERE.

Have you ever worked with a friend to keep each other accountable and motivated?

What was most helpful?

How did you reward yourselves?

Feel free to comment below.

love,

Eve

 

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Special introductory offer (save £360) on my 9 Week Chakra Coaching Programme

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I’ve been working with the chakras since I started my crystal therapy training in 2001.

My first experience of a chakra meditation was so powerful, I thought I was having a heart attack (it was simply my heart centre beginning to heal – and don’t worry. This work can be very gentle as well as transformative).

Since then, I’ve added different ways of working with them, training with Anodea Judith in Chakra Yoga and creating my own yoga sequences and other blends with coaching, NLP, EFT, unique meditations and crystals.

In included a brief introduction to each of the seven main chakras in my book, 365 Ways to Feel Better: Self-care Ideas for Embodied Wellbeing (White Owl, 2017).

Now, this new integrative coaching programme, suitable for complete newcomers and people who want to integrate other ways of working with their chakras, will help you better support yourself in all areas of your life, from finances to creativity, personal power to connection and love, communication and self talk to enhancing your intuition and much more.

Click HERE for more information, a full overview and a special offer that’s available until Monday 3rd July, 2017.

love,

Eve

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My and others’ tips for flourishing in Top Sante (April 2017)

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Thanks Patricia Carswell for including  some of my tips for staying motivated and on track as you make progress towards your goals. You can read the full piece here: TopSanteApril2017flourish

What helps you stay on track?

What’s your favourite example (so far) of flourishing in your own life?

Feel free to share below.

love,

Eve

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