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My highlights from AICTP’s 2nd Conference on Integrative Practice

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Last week was a busy one in terms of integrative coaching conferences – you wait ages for one then two come along at once! (For interested people, our next BACP Coaching one will be this November, not so close to AICTP’s).

Much as I loved chairing BACP’s Working with Coaching Day on Monday 22nd (click HERE for my highlights), it was wonderful to be able to relax as a delegate and catch up with integrative friends and colleagues on the Saturday – same hotel, same FLOOR so extreme deja vu!

I keep saying it but can’t not – it is SUCH a delight to be in a room filled with people who are also working integratively.

Especially, for me, people like the fantabulous Dr Magdalena Bak-Maier (who’s workshop last year was so lovely it inspired me to rebook for this year’s conference even though I knew it would be a very busy week).

I was also intrigued by how Emanuela Fulli was (like me) integrating energy work into her practice, in her case Reiki.

And (drum roll), in spite of having read hundreds of marketing books etc over the nearly 14 years I’ve been running my own practice, I’ve (due to the integrative nature of my work) never been able to come up with a succinct ‘elevator pitch’ until yesterday. This was a direct result of Lisa Farr’s session on marketing.

I can now say, ‘I work with people who are ready to prioritise their mental health and wellbeing. I take a holistic approach to helping them create happier, fuller and more peaceful lives.’

Ever since Theresa May’s ‘citizen of the world = citizen of nowhere’ speech in 2016, I’ve felt that little bit less at home here (London born, Indian Irish (by way of Kenya), mostly raised in Essex, a year in the US then adopted Wales before moving back to London and Essex).

Hardly succinct. I’ve experimented with ‘born in London’ but that’s not enough.

It wasn’t something I’d ever felt massively conscious of as being lots of different things, it was only during the 2012 Olympics that I began to feel that maybe, at least culturally, having spent so much of my life here, I am a little ‘British’. (I’ve always had an Irish passport).

Maybe the two events being so close to each other made a difference but I realised that same diversity of approaches is what I love about integrative practice.

My new intro (Writer, Integrative Supervisor and Coach (with Counselling, Yoga, NLP, EFT and Crystals) is still on the long side but sooo much more succinct than some of the things I’ve called myself over the years.

We’re ALL more than just one thing. I love being able to choose from a range of tools to ask the person I’m working with how they’d like to move forward.

Were you there? What were your highlights? Feel free to share below.




Feel Better Every Day on Sea – sessions now available in Frinton

Feel Better Every Day on Sea

My main client space remains Witham, with the Feel Better Every Day Consultancy on the high street but, in recent months, I’ve been offering a few sessions a week from Colchester (and am starting teaching a Sleep Yoga class there in January).

As of this week, am delighted to be offering a few sessions a week from Frinton on Sea on Essex’s Sunshine Coast. The Connaught Clinic is just a few moments from the seafront and a short walk from the station.

Connaught Clinic

 Find out more HERE and, of course, let me know if you have any questions or would like to book an initial session with me.




Health and beauty fayre in Witham on Saturday – pop over to say ‘Hi!’

If you’re in Witham on Saturday 18th (between 10am and 4pm), do say ‘Hi!’

There’s a health and beauty fayre in the Newlands Centre so you’ll meet all sorts of  practitioners you may not have known worked locally.

I’ll be at the Feel Better Every Day gazebo, doing demos and chatting to people around some of the ways we can all use our minds, bodies, hearts and souls to Feel Better Every Day.

I’ll be answering any questions you might have about:

* counselling,


* life coaching,

* NLP,

* yoga,

* yoga therapy for mental health,


* crystals,

* my work in organisations

and other services I offer from my base on Witham’s high street.

I’ll also be doing a yoga demonstration for DS Fitness (I teach a yoga class there every Wednesday at 5.30pm).

Hope to see you there.


Eve x


How easy do YOU find it to ‘Shake it off’ when something upsetting happens?

Taylor Swift shakes it off

Resilience is something I’ve been working with for a long time and so I decided to create a separate page for it. You can click here to read more.

When have you felt most resilient?

When have you felt LEAST resilient?

What helped you most?

Feel free to comment below.

Metta, Eve x



Is insomnia affecting your weight and health? (My cover story in My Weekly, 28/4/15)



Oh, the irony, posting this when Rainbow MagnifiCat woke me up at2015-04-26 10.52.05 3.45am wanting to be fed today (she has dry food out the whole time). I normally feed her at 5am and go back to bed but this morning, between 3.45 and 5, she turned the light on a dozen times and I got the opportunity to play with several self-help tools for getting back to sleep (of course, I COULD have locked her out…) myself.

On the plus side, my nights of not great sleep are now (after early childhood to late 20s chronic insomnia – I nearly missed my Drama GCSE exam due to being up all night with anxiety and finally falling into a deep sleep) almost entirely behind me.

There are lots of things we can do to support ourselves. And getting to know our own insomnia triggers and quick fixes is essential as we’re all different.

Anyway, hope you find these tips helpful and if you’d like me to send you the Sleep Log I mention, just email me ( with My Weekly / Sleep Log in the subject header.

What helps you get a good night’s sleep?

Feel free to share your top tip as a comment below.





My highlights from BACP’s Practitioner Conference

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I’ve had a fab few days in lovely Leeds for the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy’s Practitioner Conference.

As part of BACP’s Coaching Executive (I’m their Specialist for Communications), it was brilliant to spend so much time with my colleagues and to learn more about the way they work.

I had some lovely feedback about my own presentations on becoming more embodied as practitioners (sharing self care tools with therapists and coaches and was glad I’d risked sharing some crystal therapy and EFT (emotional freedom technique) as well as the more obvious body and breath work.)

An unexpected but much appreciated bonus on the Friday was a glorious (if stupid o’clock in the morning) swim. I had felt overly optimistic packing swim things and delusional when asking at Reception about the pool (it hadn’t been on the website) but it turned out they had a shuttle which took me to a local golf club.

One of my highlights was seeing the 45 delegates in my Friday workshop being so willing to participate and happily experimenting with Power Poses (if you haven’t already, do check out Amy Cuddy’s Ted Talk here for more on this simple and effective technique).

Professor Stephen Joseph’s keynote on Post Traumatic Growth resonated with my own experience (personal and professional) as well as fitting so well with psychosynthesis which sees people’s potential as much as their wounding.

How wonderful to hear that 30-70% of survivors later (often MUCH later – this has to happen in their own time and on their own terms) see the trauma/s as a springboard into a more meaningful life.

I bought the last copy of his What Doesn’t Kill Us book and turned around and he was there so got an autographed copy.

Anne Scoging differentiated between complex and complicated trauma and gave an amazing talk about her experiences with the latter through her work with London firefighters.

I was sorry to not be able to attend more but with so many interesting offerings, I stuck with the trauma and self-care strands for Day 1.

BACP’s Jade and Richard and others (not to mention all the volunteers on BACP’s various Executives) did an amazing job organising it all.

That evening, we met some of BACP Coaching’s Network Group Organisers who were more local to Leeds than London. So great to put faces to names. If you’re a coach-therapist or simply want to find out more, it’s worth checking out local meetings and you can find out more information here.

Day 2 was about integrative coach-therapy and, having been in the background while Steve Page and Gill Fennings-Monkman put such a fab day together, it was great to be part of it unfolding and to meet so many lovely new coach-therapists and therapists who were simply interested in learning more about coaching.

We started with a Panel discussion and it was inspirational for me to hear more about their diverse journeys into coach-therapy.

My more holistic route into coach-therapy was very different from the others’ (more corporate) and, again, I’d been a little apprehensive about sharing some of it but people responded really positively.

Margaret Chapman guided some of us in a mindfulness meditation at lunch and Carolyn Mumby was, as ever, a superstar stepping in at the last minute after the lovely Jayne Hildreth (get well soon!) was too ill to make it for her segment.

Carolyn, Gill, Michele Down and Becky Wright pulled together to create an integrative workshop on integrative coach-therapy and some of the different approaches (including a comedic and informative role play session with Gill playing a fictional client and Michele pausing to explain her process at different stages throughout the session).

Steve Page led a thought provoking workshop around the quality of supervision for coach-therapists and then I shared some more self-care tools before we completed the day with a roundup discussion.

All in all, I feel fortunate to have met so many lovely people and to have got to know the team better.

As well as being part of such an exciting, pioneering and innovative way of working, it’s easy to occasionally feel a little isolated.

I imagine that the feeling of gratitude for community and support I felt in Leeds will stay with me for a long time.

If you were there, what were YOUR highlights? Feel free to share below.





Which area/s of your life brings out your inner zombie?

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I just spent a lovely couple of days on Michael Breen’s Behavioural Patterning training. Even though I qualified as an NLP Master Practitioner in 2008   have integrated much of it into my life (as well as into my client work), and have been on Rapport’s editorial team since 2007 (interviewing NLP leading lights and writing about its applications for each issue), NLP covers an enormous amount and there are areas that I know I’d like to delve more deeply into.

The Meta Model is amongst these areas so when I was offered a place on this training and could make it work with my schedule, I leaped at it.

While describing the TOTE (trigger, operate, test, exit) model, Michael said that George Ramiro wanted to make social commentary films in the ‘60s but couldn’t afford to so made zombie films. ‘Those zombies in the shopping mall in Dawn of the Dead? That’s us,’ he said.

Is there an area in your life where you feel stuck or in a bad habit or simply want to improve? Once we consciously think about what we want, identifying current behaviours and seeing we can change and changing (without years of therapy although, of course, therapy has its place), we can transform our lives.

Being on autopilot (be that overspending, overeating, losing things, not getting promoted, whatever it is you want to change) means we’re forgetting that we’re in charge of our thinking and what we do.

‘If you want to do things, learn how to do things. It’s all about moving the obstacles between what you’re currently doing and your desired state,’ says Michael. ‘By and large, people don’t challenge their own thinking.’

Where DO you want to go? If we don’t know, we’re like the zombies, just moving mindlessly.

Which area/s of your life brings out your inner zombie? Do feel free to comment below or email me.

And if you’d like to make a change (or many changes) and would like some support, get in touch.





A different kind of coach – the Feel Better Every Day Consultancy is on the move…

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I’m moving. Not far, just across the car park (so parking will remain the same for clients and yoga students – free during out of office hour sessions and a small charge and short walk from the Mill Road Car Park during office hours).

126 Newland Street is a Grade II listed building that dates back, in part, to the 15th century. I’ve developed a sudden interest in history and have been loving finding out more. Although the pic above is from a different part of Essex, I’ve been imagining Witham as it might have been 300+ years ago and, frankly, feeling a bit awed. Riding my bike around, imagining being on a horse and how so much has changed and yet so much, in terms of our humanity (we still have dreams and love and fears) remains the same.

My new room has beams and one of the details I found is that it was an inn house when Witham was a regular stop for travellers (being just a day’s ride from London – am glad journey time is now 45-55 minutes on the train!).

I like the idea that back when it was an inn, 126 Newland Street was noted for great service:

In 1711, two coaches a week linked London and Harwich, stopping overnight at Witham. By the middle of the century the Harwich coach was running daily while other services starting in Ipswich, Colchester and Norwich also used Witham as a stopover. Prices were relatively high – a coach journey from Witham to London in 1758 cost 12 shillings inside and 6 shillings outside. The Blue Posts Inn, the site of number 126 Newland Street, was particularly noted for its services, prompting one traveller to write: “Travellers frequently boast of the charms of an inn, but the Blue Posts at Witham is the best that I’ve seen. The rooms are so clean, and so delicious the diet, the servants all round desirous to please, that you find yourself here completely at ease”.’ 
And I’m enjoying planning redecoration to ensure it lives up to this history and is as comfortable and welcoming for my clients and students as possible in 2014 and beyond. I’ll confirm the date of the move when I know it for sure but it’ll be towards the end of December.
It’s a lovely space and I look forward to being based there.

Why (and how) I integrate holistic therapies for the mind, body, heart and soul (AICTP Journal, November 2014)


Aka how I went from self-loathing to feeling (more) whole and how it (feeling rubbish) all helps in terms of supporting clients…  Bit of a personal piece. You can read the full feature by clicking the link below.






Stressed? ‘Imagine the sound of kittens purring…’ Hilarious, adorable and definitely de-stressing vid

Rainbow definitely helps me de-stress
Rainbow definitely helps me de-stress

Best guided meditation ever?

Stressed people were invited into glass ‘therapy’ room which was then filled with kittens :) :) :)

I love Soul Pancake.