Category Archives: Integrative coach-therapy

My highlights from AICTP’s 2nd Conference on Integrative Practice

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Last week was a busy one in terms of integrative coaching conferences – you wait ages for one then two come along at once! (For interested people, our next BACP Coaching one will be this November, not so close to AICTP’s).

Much as I loved chairing BACP’s Working with Coaching Day on Monday 22nd (click HERE for my highlights), it was wonderful to be able to relax as a delegate and catch up with integrative friends and colleagues on the Saturday – same hotel, same FLOOR so extreme deja vu!

I keep saying it but can’t not – it is SUCH a delight to be in a room filled with people who are also working integratively.

Especially, for me, people like the fantabulous Dr Magdalena Bak-Maier (who’s workshop last year was so lovely it inspired me to rebook for this year’s conference even though I knew it would be a very busy week).

I was also intrigued by how Emanuela Fulli was (like me) integrating energy work into her practice, in her case Reiki.

And (drum roll), in spite of having read hundreds of marketing books etc over the nearly 14 years I’ve been running my own practice, I’ve (due to the integrative nature of my work) never been able to come up with a succinct ‘elevator pitch’ until yesterday. This was a direct result of Lisa Farr’s session on marketing.

I can now say, ‘I work with people who are ready to prioritise their mental health and wellbeing. I take a holistic approach to helping them create happier, fuller and more peaceful lives.’

Ever since Theresa May’s ‘citizen of the world = citizen of nowhere’ speech in 2016, I’ve felt that little bit less at home here (London born, Indian Irish (by way of Kenya), mostly raised in Essex, a year in the US then adopted Wales before moving back to London and Essex).

Hardly succinct. I’ve experimented with ‘born in London’ but that’s not enough.

It wasn’t something I’d ever felt massively conscious of as being lots of different things, it was only during the 2012 Olympics that I began to feel that maybe, at least culturally, having spent so much of my life here, I am a little ‘British’. (I’ve always had an Irish passport).

Maybe the two events being so close to each other made a difference but I realised that same diversity of approaches is what I love about integrative practice.

My new intro (Writer, Integrative Supervisor and Coach (with Counselling, Yoga, NLP, EFT and Crystals) is still on the long side but sooo much more succinct than some of the things I’ve called myself over the years.

We’re ALL more than just one thing. I love being able to choose from a range of tools to ask the person I’m working with how they’d like to move forward.

Were you there? What were your highlights? Feel free to share below.

love,

Eve

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Billericay Library book signing on Saturday, 25th November

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Am really pleased to be doing a book signing in the town I did a lot of growing up in. If you’re local enough to Billericay, Essex and would like to join us, please come along.

And if you have any friends, relatives, colleagues etc there who might be interested, I’d really appreciate your letting them know about this.

Hope to see you there!

And you can find out more about this and other upcoming events HERE.

love,

Eve

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Feel Better Every Day on Sea – sessions now available in Frinton

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My main client space remains Witham, with the Feel Better Every Day Consultancy on the high street but, in recent months, I’ve been offering a few sessions a week from Colchester (and am starting teaching a Sleep Yoga class there in January).

As of this week, am delighted to be offering a few sessions a week from Frinton on Sea on Essex’s Sunshine Coast. The Connaught Clinic is just a few moments from the seafront and a short walk from the station.

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 Find out more HERE and, of course, let me know if you have any questions or would like to book an initial session with me.

love,

Eve

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Book signing and yoga and meditation workshop at the Tree Room, Colchester

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Am delighted to not only be doing a book signing (free) with yoga and meditation workshop (£5) at Colchester’s beautiful Tree Room (click HERE for more information), but to be offering some sessions from Colchester (initially Monday evenings) alongside my Witham practice.

 If you’d like to join us for the book signing, I look forward to seeing you then.

Spaces are limited for the yoga and meditation workshop so please get in touch (click HERE) to check availability and book your space today.

It’s for all levels and beginners are especially welcome.

And if you’d like to find out about booking a session with me, for integrative clinical supervision, counselling, therapeutic coaching, EFT, NLP, yoga, meditation, working with crystals and more, click HERE.

I hope to see you there!

love,

Eve

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Wishing y’all the coolest of Yules and a very Happy Christmas 2015

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This Monday night / Tuesday morning, Yule (also known as the Winter Solstice in this hemisphere) gives me an excuse to start eating the delicious looking chocolate Yule Log I’ve been saving.

But more importantly than cake, it’s a great time of year to reflect on our inner selves, private lives, renewal and rebirth.

It’s a time to remember that darkness isn’t scary but a time of enormous growth below the surface. I love* Keats’ idea of ‘negative capability’. Cultivating a willingness to stay with the unknown rather than pushing for answers can allow greater creativity and progress.

Ideas around possibility and potential are really important at this time of year. We can allow ourselves to dream big for ourselves, shining light on our hopes.

Any kind of renewal also involves letting go so it’s a great time of year to release whatever’s no longer serving us (mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually and in any other way you can think of).

Letting go allows us to invite in the new.

It’s also a time of paradoxes as all this inward looking quiet energy is countered by all the festivities of Christmas. Some people find themselves coming down with bugs because they’re burning the candle at both ends.

Quiet reflection may seem like a distant dream itself.

You know yourself best. Just take odd moments, when it suits you, to check in with yourself.

What are you most looking forward to about the coming week?

Have you got the balance right for yourself in terms of outward energy and time with others v quiet(er) time alone or with immediate family?

How can you honour loved ones you may especially grieve at this time of year?

What supports can you put in place so feel less overwhelmed with too many social commitments / isolated and lonely?

What are your favourite (Yule / Christmas / whatever holidays you celebrate around this time of year) traditions and rituals?

What are you going to do differently this year (maybe allowing yourself more time to think about what you want to do instead of being swept along in everyone else’s wishes?)?

What are your biggest dreams and goals at the moment?

Feel free to post in the comments below.

Cool Yule!

love,

Eve x

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*hypothetically – in reality, I often forget and have to remind myself that whatever is unfolding is unfolding and I just need to be patient a little longer (as with everything, it’s a practice)

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Dealing with life’s ‘Grr!’s by looking at some sticky shadow stuff

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I’m seeing a lot of posts on Facebook about people defriending others due to political beliefs. I’m aware that my rate of deleting posts I’ve typed before publishing them has increased massively since last night, too (and am conscious that a friend joked about a secret tool they have to read deleted posts!).

So I thought I’d spend some time with my shadow today. Jung popularised the idea of our shadow selves, where we project what we’ve disowned in ourselves onto others (be they loved ones, colleagues, strangers, politicians or people from other parts of the world and religions).

The bad news is that this leads to much acting out unconsciously.

The good news is that by reclaiming those unloved aspects of ourselves, WE CAN HEAL. We literally become more whole.

Thinking about this in the pool today, I realised that one of my personal triggers is people blocking the lane in the swimming (it’s a verb) pool. They could be standing to chat in a million other places, my incensed thought processes rant, and there are so few places to swim…

And on a good day, I can smile to myself recognising that this little Grr may have more to do with me than with the thoughtless people chattering away (ditto people blocking doorways, cycle paths, putting feet on train seats etc – I could go on but will restrain myself).

I can ask myself if there may be (even a teeny tiny) part of myself that may be jealous of their casual oblivious approach to life? That maybe I can acknowledge that swanning through life with less consideration for others could potentially be more fun. And as soon as I can acknowledge that, yes, of course, there’s a thoughtless, oblivious aspect of my own personality, I suddenly feel far less bothered by the previously seemingly Evil Lane Blockers.

Sometimes, like today, as soon as I have that epiphany, they move away!

I have a tendency to be overly empathic sometimes, focusing more on others’ needs than my own. This can be a useful thing (in my work, for example) but I’ve also worked hard to dial it back in my personal life as it’s not helpful (or fun!).

By being aware of this shadow aspect to caring and empathy (RAGE towards thoughtless people who don’t give a ****), I’m better able (progress not perfection) to own my own stuff and have a much nicer swim / bike ride / train journey / life etc.

If I remained oblivious to my own shadow, I might act out (swimming violently to SPLASH said Evil Lane Blockers (I’m joking, they’re totally normal people, just like you and me) or even saying, ‘Excuse me!’ in a slightly passive aggressive way.

You get the picture…

What springs to mind when you think about the people and situations that irritate / infuriate you the most?

Think about who makes you go ‘Grr!’ (if you want to – this is not for the fainthearted. Our shadow aspects are parts of ourselves that we, at some stage, unconsciously deemed So Awful, we cut them off, burying them in the dark).

Does a particular person (known personally or maybe on social media or on TV – anyone at all) really trigger you?

If you were Really Honest with yourself, what might your irritation or anger be trying to tell you about an unclaimed shadow aspect of yourself?

I’d love to hear your thoughts (if you’re happy to share) so do feel free to use the Comments section below and let me know what makes you go Grr and what that means to you?

And, of course, if you’d like to explore this in more depth, do get in touch.

love,

Eve x

 

 

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Some clips from my studio guest slot at the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) Private Practice conference on trauma last month

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I really enjoyed joining Anne Scoging and Karen Lloyd after Michael Gavin’s workshop on self-care and trauma at BACP’s trauma conference last month. And now I’ve figured out how to edit online video (I feel like a technological genius but know that I’m far from it), I can share some clips which I hope you’ll find interesting.

Introduction to the way I work (and how no one’s broken beyond repair) – click here to watch

How to tune into our bellies when we may be filled with self-loathing about our bellies – click here to watch

Some tips for embodied self-care for counsellors and other caring professionals – click here to watch

Another quick tip for embodied self-care – click here to watch

How EFT can be helpful in trauma work – click here to watch

More on how EFT can be helpful – click here to watch

Click here to register for the fuller conference webcast.

Feel free to comment below and to share your own top tips for self-care, too.

love,

Eve x

 

 

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Health and beauty fayre in Witham on Saturday – pop over to say ‘Hi!’

If you’re in Witham on Saturday 18th (between 10am and 4pm), do say ‘Hi!’

There’s a health and beauty fayre in the Newlands Centre so you’ll meet all sorts of  practitioners you may not have known worked locally.

I’ll be at the Feel Better Every Day gazebo, doing demos and chatting to people around some of the ways we can all use our minds, bodies, hearts and souls to Feel Better Every Day.

I’ll be answering any questions you might have about:

* counselling,

*coach-therapy,

* life coaching,

* NLP,

* yoga,

* yoga therapy for mental health,

*EFT,

* crystals,

* my work in organisations

and other services I offer from my base on Witham’s high street.

I’ll also be doing a yoga demonstration for DS Fitness (I teach a yoga class there every Wednesday at 5.30pm).

Hope to see you there.

love,

Eve x

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How easy do YOU find it to ‘Shake it off’ when something upsetting happens?

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Resilience is something I’ve been working with for a long time and so I decided to create a separate page for it. You can click here to read more.

When have you felt most resilient?

When have you felt LEAST resilient?

What helped you most?

Feel free to comment below.

Metta, Eve x

 

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Do you play to your strengths? My positive psychology piece for Rapport magazine (April 2015)

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You can click here to read the full feature RapportApril15PositivePsychology

Which do you think is your biggest strength?

Do you ever overplay it? (I know I do with curiosity and that can lead to spreading myself too thin and potential burnout).

What about the strengths you underplay?

Do feel free to comment below!

Metta, Eve x

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