Category Archives: Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)

Happy World Freedom Day!

 

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What does the word freedom MEAN to you?

What would being truly free, FEEL like?

How might it feel to make a list of everything you’re ready to release? Tapping (EFT) can be a wonderful way to free yourself from the blocked energy. You can access a video explaining how to do it for yourself HERE.

Maybe freedom means ending a relationship or setting a healthy boundary and redefining the relationship so you’re not betraying yourself to please someone else?

Perhaps it means crossing a load of items of your To Do list and either delegating/outsourcing the essentials or letting things go completely.

Maybe it means some kind of sabbatical or break to travel and experience a different way of life.

Perhaps it means speaking out about something you’ve been holding onto.

What will help YOU feel even a taste of freedom today?

Feel free to post what freedom means to you today below.

love,

Eve

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I know, I know, but, in case you’ve started your Christmas shopping…

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I can already hear the outrage. It’s only the start of November! And yet, some people LIKE to sort Christmas and other holiday shopping early. Some people (including me) are already REALLY looking forward to making 2018 the best yet.

If you’re interested, I’ve put together a few potential gift ideas – maybe treats for yourself, maybe a gift for a loved one.

My book, Sleep Yoga classes, 9 Week Chakra Coaching Programme and any integrative therapy session (ie, you can choose which you’d like to include – some coaching alongside yoga? Crystals? NLP? EFT? Meditation? Recently, I’ve been working with yoga and crystals at the same time – really interesting, powerful work) are a few potential gift ideas.

Click HERE for more information and ideas and get in touch if you have any questions.

I work with individuals and groups in Essex (Witham, Colchester and Frinton on Sea) and worldwide via Skype/Vsee and telephone.

I look forward to working with you (and your loved ones!) the rest of this year, in 2018 and beyond.

love,

Eve

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Billericay Library book signing on Saturday, 25th November

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Am really pleased to be doing a book signing in the town I did a lot of growing up in. If you’re local enough to Billericay, Essex and would like to join us, please come along.

And if you have any friends, relatives, colleagues etc there who might be interested, I’d really appreciate your letting them know about this.

Hope to see you there!

And you can find out more about this and other upcoming events HERE.

love,

Eve

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Feel Better Every Day on Sea – sessions now available in Frinton

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My main client space remains Witham, with the Feel Better Every Day Consultancy on the high street but, in recent months, I’ve been offering a few sessions a week from Colchester (and am starting teaching a Sleep Yoga class there in January).

As of this week, am delighted to be offering a few sessions a week from Frinton on Sea on Essex’s Sunshine Coast. The Connaught Clinic is just a few moments from the seafront and a short walk from the station.

Connaught Clinic

 Find out more HERE and, of course, let me know if you have any questions or would like to book an initial session with me.

love,

Eve

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EFT to reduce cravings

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I just came across this short video from Australia about research showing how effective tapping (aka Emotional Freedom Technique) can be for food cravings.

Click here to view it.

If you’d like to find out more about the way I work with EFT, you can click here.

And if you’d like to try it, I recorded a short video as a book bonus (available, free, to everyone). You can click here to go to the book bonus videos and here to be directed straight to the EFT one.

Have you tried tapping?

Feel free to share below.

love,

Eve

 

 

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Some clips from my studio guest slot at the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) Private Practice conference on trauma last month

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I really enjoyed joining Anne Scoging and Karen Lloyd after Michael Gavin’s workshop on self-care and trauma at BACP’s trauma conference last month. And now I’ve figured out how to edit online video (I feel like a technological genius but know that I’m far from it), I can share some clips which I hope you’ll find interesting.

Introduction to the way I work (and how no one’s broken beyond repair) – click here to watch

How to tune into our bellies when we may be filled with self-loathing about our bellies – click here to watch

Some tips for embodied self-care for counsellors and other caring professionals – click here to watch

Another quick tip for embodied self-care – click here to watch

How EFT can be helpful in trauma work – click here to watch

More on how EFT can be helpful – click here to watch

Click here to register for the fuller conference webcast.

Feel free to comment below and to share your own top tips for self-care, too.

love,

Eve x

 

 

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Fridge Magnet Therapy with Chris Milbank

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(This magnet image is showing up fine in draft but once published, goes horizontal – spooky)

I’ve long loved energy therapies. Woo woo as many sound, I’m trained and experienced in a fair few. Crystal therapy was the first (crystals helped me where hospital prescribed painkillers didn’t so, having been interested since my teens, I became open to learning more and ended up training over three years. I still use them daily).

NLP has its energetic elements and Art Giser’s gorgeous Energetic NLP (ENLP) has been so powerful (and speedy), with great results in so many areas of my life, as well as being a tool I sometimes share with clients and students, I incorporate some into my daily meditation each morning.

And EFT works with meridians (something I first learned about during my crystal therapy training although I feel more comfortable with the chakras).

Even the kind of counselling I do, psychosynthesis, has its energetic elements. It’s creator, Roberto Assagioli, had worked with Freud but was also very interested in potential as much as wounding. Eastern philosophy as well as Western science. I’ve done some training with Energetic Psychotherapy pioneer, Phil Mollon.

And, of course, yoga works with energy. So it’s a big part of what I do, both for my own self-care and when working with clients and students.

Still, when I was invited to an evening of Fridge Magnet Therapy, I definitely laughed at the idea. One friend rolled her eyes and said, ‘Only you, Eve’ (although the evening was FILLED with similarly curious souls so I wasn’t the only one by a long shot!).

I’d not heard of Chris Milbank but the other Solar Events trainings I’d attended (Art Giser‘s ENLP and Joanna Martin‘s Presentation Secrets) had far exceeded my expectations so I was open to it.

And it rocked. Jemma had included some black cat fridge magnets in the selection she’d bought so I chose one in honour of Rainbow (see above. Of COURSE I chose a black cat over unicorns, mermaids, witches and other magical creatures).

Chris seemed smiley and down to earth. He was also laughing at his creation of Fridge Magnet Therapy but as he spoke about more traditional magnet therapy and the meridians, it made sense. (Again, I know that much of what makes sense to me sounds nuts to my loved ones, let alone strangers.)

He pointed out that apart from us knowing that meridians exist because we feel energy work WORKING, Pierre de Vernejoul demonstrated these electrical pathways’ existence by injecting dye and showing visibly how it moved around this energy system.

I volunteered to be first guinea pig as while not phobic, I had a fair bit of dread about my upcoming dental surgery. As with EFT and NLP, he tested as he went along, I’d be feeling much better about it and he’d throw in something about my not just needing the one implant to replace my poor broken tooth but that I’d need 6. A week. On my toes.

Of course, this made me laugh as well as cringe and I continued following his instructions using the magnet along a meridien (this can be done via Skype as the person uses the magnet on him or herself). At one point (I was also a little self conscious being in front of a fairly large group), I joked about throwing myself out of the window.

I had no idea where that had come from but after the demonstration, when I sat back in my seat and made notes,

The upcoming dental treatment felt much less daunting and as I wrote, I remembered being a young teenager, having four teeth removed in order to have a fixed brace fitted (someone used to call me Sharky as my teeth were growing over each other). Before going under, I remembered having a real sense of dread. The dentist (not my usual lovely soul) was clearly in a bad mood and I had a strong sense of him meaning me harm. I remember actively wanting to leap out of the window to get away from him.

I know from the yoga therapy and other trauma work just how adept the body is at storing memories but the gums? Teeth? This astonished me as I made the connection last night. When I think back, I’m not sure if that was the last thing I remembered before waking up with four fewer teeth or if I had the teeth removed by someone less sadistic another time but I remember that feeling.

So I was lucky enough to experienced Fridge Magnet Therapy’s benefits direct from its inventor.

Throughout the rest of the evening, as well as some other demonstrations, we worked on some of our own beliefs and issues. And as with other intense energy work experiences, I slept really well afterwards.

Its something I’m delighted to have come across and I know I’ll offer it as an option, when it feels appropriate, as part of sessions, workshops and classes.

As with EFT and crystals and yogic breaths and so on, while I believe they have energetic benefits, you really don’t have to for it to work.

Even the act of thinking to yourself, ‘Hmmm, _____ is holding me back/bugging me/causing upset/whatever… I know, I’ll play with that Fridge Magnet Therapy’ (or EFT or whatever feels good to you) offers a way of remembering you’re more than your ruminating mind.

That issue you want support with (or to help yourself with) is intense enough to be bothering you. By actively moving your hand and the magnet along the meridian (or tapping or whatever you choose), you’re changing your posture, you’re probably calming your breath, you’re almost certainly laughing. You’re helping your body’s natural healing capabilities to kick in. And there are no side effects (apart from, maybe, a little embarrassment).

If you’d like to find out more, Chris is running a weekend training course in February (again, through the ever fab Solar Events) so, if you’re interested in learning how to elevate this humble fridge decoration to a therapeutic tool, I recommend it!

What’s the most ‘woo woo’ therapy you’ve tried?

How did it help?

What would you LIKE to try?

Feel free to comment below.

love,

Eve x

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Inside Out – fab film and potential reminder around mindfulness of our emotions

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I saw it last night and loved it.

And it’s another tool to help us notice when we’re being run by our emotions. The ever fantabulous Amy Poehler was especially terrifying as Joy when she was trying to hijack the other emotions, especially poor old Sadness (Phyllis Smith embodied her voice beautifully).

While they were the main characters (Joy suddenly finds herself not the main emotion in little Riley’s life after an unexpected move away from all her friends and hobbies), Disgust (Mindy Kaling – can’t wait for her new book to arrive), Fear and Anger were also essential.

Claudia Hammond wrote a gorgeous book some years back called Emotional Rollercoaster: A journey through the science of feelings. Inside Out made me want to dig it out and reread it.

This film felt (to me) like an emotional rollercoaster – I nearly made it through without crying although they’d been some near misses but, well, no. In my defense, I wasn’t the only one. And the tears felt good!

When you think of the Joy, Sadness, Fear, Anger and Disgust in your own head, which are you most aware of?

Which do you try to repress? (Remember poor old Sadness being instructed to stay in her teeny tiny circle?)

Has repressing your emotions ever worked?

It may seem silly now, considering the work I do, but when I first saw a counsellor in my early 20s, she asked me how I was feeling and although I was clearly being run by my emotions, I simply couldn’t tell her, or myself. Her simple ‘How does that feel?’ may as well have been in Russian (which I sadly cannot speak or understand).

Just checking in with yourself, a few times a day and wondering, which are you most conscious of, can help you better understand the language of your own feelings. There’s no need to try to change anything, simply give yourself permission to feel it.

This won’t, as Fear might have you believe, leave you completely hijacked by your Anger or Sadness. Instead, those feelings will pass more freely and easily leaving you less likely to act out on them.

You might also want to think about ways in which you can express your Joy more freely? What naturally sparks Joy for you?

What helps you deal with Sadness? How might you allow yourself to feel some of that pain, loss and grief and let it go more naturally? (A good cry at a fab film can help! I recommend this one).

What about Anger? We (especially women, in whom, even in 2015 it’s still less socially acceptable than in men) definitely don’t want to suppress this.

Look at how Anger at injustice has changed the world for the better when expressed lovingly by people like Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr, Mother Theresa, Nelson Mandela, Scilla Elworthy, Gloria Steinem, Eve Ensler – the list is endless.

What makes you angry? How can you channel that perfectly legitimate emotion into action you feel good about?

And, awww, Disgust. I failed to hold back a judgmental and disgusted, ‘Oh dear God’ as a small child spat (maybe he thought he was a professional footballer, whatever – eeeww) on the floor very near me yesterday. I’ve been known to turn this Disgust against myself for feeling it but, hopefully, with Mindy Kaling’s help (she embraced it fully), I’ll come to accept my own squeamishness more.

Are you easily disgusted? How might you express it in as healthy a way as possible?

Just noticing our usual default emotions in different situations can help us being to gain more freedom as we’re guided rather than hijacked by our feelings.

Good luck!

What might you choose to do differently to better express all of your emotions from today?

Feel free to answer below in the comments!

love,

Eve x

 

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Health and beauty fayre in Witham on Saturday – pop over to say ‘Hi!’

If you’re in Witham on Saturday 18th (between 10am and 4pm), do say ‘Hi!’

There’s a health and beauty fayre in the Newlands Centre so you’ll meet all sorts of  practitioners you may not have known worked locally.

I’ll be at the Feel Better Every Day gazebo, doing demos and chatting to people around some of the ways we can all use our minds, bodies, hearts and souls to Feel Better Every Day.

I’ll be answering any questions you might have about:

* counselling,

*coach-therapy,

* life coaching,

* NLP,

* yoga,

* yoga therapy for mental health,

*EFT,

* crystals,

* my work in organisations

and other services I offer from my base on Witham’s high street.

I’ll also be doing a yoga demonstration for DS Fitness (I teach a yoga class there every Wednesday at 5.30pm).

Hope to see you there.

love,

Eve x

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How easy do YOU find it to ‘Shake it off’ when something upsetting happens?

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Resilience is something I’ve been working with for a long time and so I decided to create a separate page for it. You can click here to read more.

When have you felt most resilient?

When have you felt LEAST resilient?

What helped you most?

Feel free to comment below.

Metta, Eve x

 

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