Category Archives: Coaching

Feel Better Friday video: What will you put in your mightier than a vision board ‘mood box’?

Writing today’s blog is making me laugh again as I start a NEW mood box for something I’d not even considered when I filmed this on Monday.

They can be used for moods (calm? confident? peaceful? courageous? sleepy? safe?) and goals.

Use all your senses – vision, hearing, touch (fabrics, stones…), emotions, even smells and (careful not to have things that might go off) tastes.

What’s will you put in your mood box?

What will you use for it? An old shoebox that you decorate? 

Feel free to share below.

With love,

Eve

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My highlights from AICTP’s 2nd Conference on Integrative Practice

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Last week was a busy one in terms of integrative coaching conferences – you wait ages for one then two come along at once! (For interested people, our next BACP Coaching one will be this November, not so close to AICTP’s).

Much as I loved chairing BACP’s Working with Coaching Day on Monday 22nd (click HERE for my highlights), it was wonderful to be able to relax as a delegate and catch up with integrative friends and colleagues on the Saturday – same hotel, same FLOOR so extreme deja vu!

I keep saying it but can’t not – it is SUCH a delight to be in a room filled with people who are also working integratively.

Especially, for me, people like the fantabulous Dr Magdalena Bak-Maier (who’s workshop last year was so lovely it inspired me to rebook for this year’s conference even though I knew it would be a very busy week).

I was also intrigued by how Emanuela Fulli was (like me) integrating energy work into her practice, in her case Reiki.

And (drum roll), in spite of having read hundreds of marketing books etc over the nearly 14 years I’ve been running my own practice, I’ve (due to the integrative nature of my work) never been able to come up with a succinct ‘elevator pitch’ until yesterday. This was a direct result of Lisa Farr’s session on marketing.

I can now say, ‘I work with people who are ready to prioritise their mental health and wellbeing. I take a holistic approach to helping them create happier, fuller and more peaceful lives.’

Ever since Theresa May’s ‘citizen of the world = citizen of nowhere’ speech in 2016, I’ve felt that little bit less at home here (London born, Indian Irish (by way of Kenya), mostly raised in Essex, a year in the US then adopted Wales before moving back to London and Essex).

Hardly succinct. I’ve experimented with ‘born in London’ but that’s not enough.

It wasn’t something I’d ever felt massively conscious of as being lots of different things, it was only during the 2012 Olympics that I began to feel that maybe, at least culturally, having spent so much of my life here, I am a little ‘British’. (I’ve always had an Irish passport).

Maybe the two events being so close to each other made a difference but I realised that same diversity of approaches is what I love about integrative practice.

My new intro (Writer, Integrative Supervisor and Coach (with Counselling, Yoga, NLP, EFT and Crystals) is still on the long side but sooo much more succinct than some of the things I’ve called myself over the years.

We’re ALL more than just one thing. I love being able to choose from a range of tools to ask the person I’m working with how they’d like to move forward.

Were you there? What were your highlights? Feel free to share below.

love,

Eve

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What do you WANT to happen? (Rapport, October 2017)

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You can click this link to read the full piece: Quick Tips 56 Well Formed Outcomes 05

And, of course, it’s a practice to focus on what we want rather than on our fears.

What helps you?

Feel free to share below.

love,

Eve

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My piece on using houseplants to help with goal setting (Rapport, October 2017)

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You can click this link to read the full feature: Health 56 Houseplant Anchors 10

Sometimes I feel a little guilty when I think about how hard all my houseplants work (although them simply being themselves helps me remember my own intentions so I don’t think it’s too arduous for them).

Have you used houseplants to help you with goal setting or intentions? 

Feel free to share below.

love,

Eve

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My latest Chair’s Message (Coaching Today, January 2018)

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You can click this link to read the whole piece: CTJan18ChairMessage

This article appeared in the January 2018 issue of Coaching Today, which is published by the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy © BACP

Were you able to attend our Working with Coaching Day in London last week? What did you think?

Click HERE to read about some of my highlights from the day.

Feel free to share below.

love,

Eve

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My piece on being kinder to ourselves this year (Rapport, January 2018)

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Has beating yourself up every other year WORKED? How about experimenting with some kindness, acceptance and self-care this year?

You can read the whole thing by clicking this link: Quick Tips 57 Be Kinder to Yourself 05

What helps YOU?

Feel free to share below.

love,

Eve

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My piece on Productive Struggle (Rapport, January 2018)

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Another piece featuring Rainbow MagnifiCat (the picture is not of her but of another adorable feline).

You can click this link to read the whole piece Business 57 Benefits of Productive Struggle 14

Which struggles do you look back on and see as most productive in your life so far?

What might help you better support your clients (and loved ones) through – from a distance – in the future?

Feel free to comment below.

love,

Eve

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My highlights from Chairing yesterday’s Working with Coaching day for BACP

Yesterday was in the planning for many, many months – as a member of BACP’s Coaching Executive and Chair since January last year, I knew that this would mean my hosting the day.

This felt both a little daunting (80ish people expected – turned out, it was fully booked and, including us and staff, we had nearly 120!) and cheeky.

After all, Carolyn Mumby, our Chair Elect, did soooo much of the heavy lifting in taking the lead in organising  the day and liaising with the speakers, along with BACP’s staff (who make the actual smooth running of events look so effortless).

The whole Coaching Executive – Sally Brown, Gill Fennings-Monkman MBE, Steve Page and Michele Down, spent days (we’re all volunteers)  creating the format, briefing for presenters and helping fine tune content.

It came together beautifully.

Side Plank

When I did this Side Plank in the morning, burning off some stress hormones so I could better relax into presenting, I had NO idea I’d be teaching yoga in a dress later on – one of our speakers was ill so I did a little impromptu mindful breathing and chair yoga during some of what would have been her slot.

Intro

Introducing the event

Jackee Holder

The fantabulous Jackee Holder opened the day with a session on trees as metaphors and reflective writing

Carolyn Mumby

BACP Coaching Chair Elect, Carolyn Mumby‘s talk on working with young people inspired me to consider doing some additional training in this area

Sue Sutcliffe

Sue Sutcliffe (typo on pic not here) made the case for preventative couples’ work (ie, working on our relationships sooner rather than waiting for things to go wrong and potentially implode).

Catherine Macadam

Catherine Macadam talked about coaching for unpaid carers, pointing out just how many of us have or will be carers (or need care) at some point in our lives

David Britten

David Britten spoke about coaching for recovery

I realised that this was exactly what I had done – I trained as a life coach when self-loathing was my default position. The coaching tools I learned and coaching I experienced helped me begin to overcome how I felt deep down and after years of coaching and adding other therapies, I felt ready to delve deeper and do the counselling training which I knew would involve personal therapy.

I am so glad that through David’s and others’ work, more people are benefitting from coaching and the building on resources that this can offer. Obviously, it makes sense to go to a coach with psychological training too but coaching alone can be a powerful support.

At this point, I no longer have pics as the lovely person photographing was then offering timer support to the speakers:

Katharine Collins was an inspiration. Her talk on ‘coaching through a queer lense’, and encouraging people to define their niches based on the changes we wish to see in the world is the best niching advice I’ve ever come across.

And Miranda Rock, talking about the journey between qualifying and working with executives and directors was a breath of fresh air.

Jackee then helped us ground the day and identify our own personal next steps. Being an integrative and expansive soul, my own next steps felt more like ‘find out more about x, y and z’ than narrowing down as so many of the speakers had inspired me but I know that I’m also drilling down to simplify my offerings.

This blog post represents my own experience of the day but the energy in the hotel was gorgeous and feedback so far has been incredibly positive.

People, passionate about counselling and coaching, wanting to learn more, to find out how to serve more people. It was a delight listening to the speakers, talking to delegates, catching up with the team (our last meeting had to be cancelled due to snow so it had been a while since we’d all met in person).

We’re already planning another Working With Coaching Day for York in November – if you’re a member of BACP Coaching or BACP and have ideas or feedback you’d like to share about yesterday and upcoming events, do email me – eve@feelbettereveryday.co.uk

And feel free to comment below.

Love,

Eve

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My tips on staying motivated and 365 Ways to Feel Better featured in today’s Sun newspaper

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Thanks Claire Dunwell for including some of my tips for staying motivated when you feel like giving up on your New Year’s Resolutions.

What helps you stay on track?

Feel free to share below.

love,

Eve

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