If I talked to myself the way I talked to my cat, I’d probably be invincible

 

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Some have suggested I adore Rainbow MagnifiCat too much (impossible).

When I stand up to open the door for her, I say, ‘Just opening the door for you. No pressure. You can go out or stay in. If you go out, stay safe, have fun, come when I call you and back before ___*’

Sometimes, the above scenario plays out several times within a few minutes. Cats change their minds. And I have all the time in the world for her even though patience isn’t one of my biggest strengths.

Catching myself talking patiently and sensitively to her several times recently, I wondered how much easier challenging** tasks might be for me if my own default self-talk was as soothing.

Sometimes, I think Rainbow assumes her name is really ‘Divine wondercat’, ‘Most magnificent creature to have ever walked the planet’ or similar.

I wouldn’t want to go overboard with myself (I’m only human) and yet, on days I smile at my reflection (after years of therapy) rather than think, ‘Urgh, I look like Jack Nicholson***’ I realise that my self-talk has improved.

These days, if I break something or similar, I often hear myself calling myself ‘Kitten’. I’m dealing with the breakage (or whatever flaw) but in a much gentler way than I used to where I’d have been mentally bludgeoning myself over being clumsy.

I feel a little embarrassed writing this. Not because of the cat worship but because after 15+ years of this kind of work and so many improvements in my own self-care, it’s taken the last few years of cat care to embed this particular shift.

How might your self-talk improve if you spoke to yourself as you would to a beloved dog / dragon / child etc?

Notice how you feel when you express patience and compassion for yourself rather than criticism and judgment.

As with everything, it’s a practice. But the kinder and more accepting we can be to ourselves, the easier it becomes to make any change and improvement.

Cultivating a more caring voice for our self-talk is worth doing.

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love,

Eve

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* curfew works 95% of the time but she IS a cat

** not that coming in and going out is challenging for her

*** no offence to Jack Nicholson intended. He is a beautiful man but I don’t want to look like him

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